13 Easy Steps in Becoming a Desirable Alpha Male


He is definitely the type of man every person hopes to be: the chief executive of the business industry, the lead actor of a blockbuster movie, the captain of the ship, the commander of the pack. This person is THE Alpha Male. All men around the globe want to be him while all women in the universe fancy being with him. If you are one of these men who want to be seen as THE Alpha Male, then in this blog you will get to read and understand the simple steps to be that man.

#1. Be confident. Confidence is one of the six key traits an alpha male should have. However, being confident should not be overstated or flashy. It is not wrong to think greatly about yourself; and it is also not wrong to think undeniably in your qualifications and abilities. With such notion, men and even women will absolutely act in response to you. You have to know that there is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. Do not, in any situation, confuse arrogance with confidence or vice versa. Arrogance is merely low self-respect turned outwards. People think of an arrogant man as a depressed, insecure, immature man, which is the extremely exact opposite of the definition of an alpha male. Confidence on the other hand, illustrates calm internal and central strength, security, and dependability.

#2. Set your position in a group, event or any given occasion. In a given situation where you enter a room as the alpha male, you need to set your mind that people in there will listen and react to anything you have and want to say. Reactions vary, some might think you are pointless, your ideas are vague or to the extent that they will doubt everything, you say. Your main goal as an alpha male is that these people need to respect what you have or need to say. That you matter, that there should be an impact on what you are saying. This is not easy especially if you have a phobia of speaking to others but in the succeeding chapters, this will be further elaborated. The important point here is that you must not doubt of what you say because if you do, every single person in that room will definitely doubt you as well.

#3. Make use of wit to your gain. You have to know that using wit and humor does not mean you need to be the clown or laughing-stock of the crowd. This only means that you should be able to deliver punch lines in a timely responsive manner, smile with unadulterated pleasure, and to laugh or chuckle at yourself. Even to the point where you laugh at other’s comments or jokes but without being spiteful, malicious or cynical about it.

#4. Allow your own body to do the talk. The manner you present yourself speaks enough volume to other people around you, even if you are not making any sound. Your movements, you hand gestures, your mannerisms, and your posture – these launch signals to other people around you regarding your status in the society. Your goal is to make those signals confident and strong, not puny and protective. Below are some key pointers you need to understand:

  • You need to make certain that you practice what you really desire to be. Find out occasions where people gathered, and just walk right in that room proudly. If in any case you do not feel it, then try to remember a situation where you felt proud of yourself, and carry that same feeling every time you practice.
  • Teach yourself the Art of Body Language. There are two particular indications that almost all leaders utilize, and followers react to:
    • “Steepling” demonstrates an enough amount of confidence. You can make that steeple through pressing both your hands’ fingertips collectively, with your palms separated. Remember that you need not to go too high. When your fingertips touch the mouth area, you are showing lack of confidence so avoid doing this. For any 2-way conversation, the male with a higher steeple take charge or control of the conversation.
    • Both hands behind your back. This posture is a mind-set of exposure. You let somebody see power, courage, and confidence. You show your sincerity to listening when you hold both hands at the rear.
  • The eye contact. When you talk, walk around, or any particular movement, make certain to look into other people’s eyes. It signals power, sincerity, and charm. However, this could be extremely difficult if you are afraid in making an eye contact. What you can do is keep your eyes moving. Look them in the eye then move it down at the movement of their mouth when they talk.

#5. Do not be scared to load any place with your mere presence. Always bear in your heart and mind that alpha males stand out in the crowd. You have the stand with a powerful posture. Regardless if you talk, glance or just stand, you need to make use of unrestrained gestures. Lastly, even if you are exploding inside due to nervousness, you still need to look unperturbed and at ease in your environment.

#6. The Secret behind listening. You are considered a true leader when you become an alpha male. A real alpha male does not do the talking that much. In fact, he spends more of his time listening to others than talking. When you listen to what other people say, you need to listen attentively and actively. You have to make sure that when you listen, you listen without any signs of judgment. When people see this in you, more individuals will approach and open up to you. The secret behind listening is getting the trust of other people, which is an important alpha male trait.

#7. Alpha males follow other alpha males. One of the easiest and essential approaches to learn how to become an alpha male is by following or copying other alpha males. Observe their gestures, movements, and postures. Observe how they dress because all alpha males have a keen interest in fashion.

#8. Hit the gym and get physically fit. Having abs, toned biceps, and muscular chest is the least important trait of an alpha male because being a real alpha male comes from within. On the other hand, hitting the gym will maintain your body healthy, which signals that you have the ability to take care of others.

#9. Always make sure that you are honest. There are fake alpha males and other people easily distinguish them. Fake alpha males lie and usually cheat just to get what they want. However, a true alpha male is honest to himself and to the other people. He does not pretend just to be accepted by people.

#10. The proper dress code of a true alpha male. With the endless evolution of today’s fashion, even men try to look better. Alpha males do not wear what is trendy this year or the next one. He wears clothes to stand out from the rest of the males in the group. Avoid from wearing clothes that promote or market a brand, your favorite band or whatnot. You need to keep in mind that you should advertise yourself. Another case in point is that dressing well does not necessarily mean dressing up. Try to learn by heart the three important things:

  • Your wardrobe should always fit you well.
  • Your wardrobe should always be comfortable to wear.
  • Your attire should always be suitable and fitting to a particular event or occasion.

#11. Flirting is not always bad so you must learn it. Having the knowledge on how to build a romantic or intimate connection is vital to all alpha males. Being talented, well established, confident, and attractive does not essentially mean that you got what it truly takes to intermingle with your probable mate. On the other hand, it will give you an advantage. Learn the techniques of getting away from being friend zoned and different approaches on how to flirt properly. You do not want to send a wrong message to your potential mate and be slapped at the end, do you?

#12. Develop or learn new skills. Being true alpha ale is not just about confidence, fashion, hairstyle or being physically attractive. Developing new skills or abilities is also considered. This shows that you continuously learn and not afraid of change. You become dependable and well-rounded individual who people will search for when they have questions.

#13. Be a leader, not a mere follower. You do not have to be a manager or a department head to become a leader. And you have to know the difference between a boss and a leader because a leader does not only take control but also does it well. Offer help, take accountable of your mistakes, and share credit to colleagues are some of the things that identify a true leader.

You may find it interesting what kind of woman in the world giving tips about being a desirable Alpha Male. Well, having a male-dominated family tree and working with guys (for years) did the trick. What about you? Any tips you’d like to share? Drop a comment and let us share our ideas. Thanks for sharing Pinay Time with me, Lovelies. 🙂 ❤


Learn to Accept Yourself

Self-worth is as important as self-esteem as both are connected on how you value yourself and how well you act in response to other people; it very much influences your life. As an individual, you could never get away from all negativities that life may bring to your plate. It is just the matter on how you take things and deal with what you have.

I always believe that no matter how much you have, it will never satisfy yourself, primarily because of the never-ending changes our time gives us. Take your mobile phone as an example, you’ll save a couple of hundreds from your salary just to get the newest phone available in the market but once you purchased it, another one is introduced again with a larger variety of features and applications which could stir your tech cravings once again.

Same goes with your takings in life. Even if you have too much achievement under your belt, you seek more. Contentment is by far the most difficult to attain in any person’s life but you see, you have to be grateful and happy with what you have because others have lesser than you.

Being contented with yourself is the first part that you need to do. You have to assess yourself and list down all the qualities, talents and skills you think you have. Rate those qualities and traits from 1 to 5; you may also ask your friends what they know about you as a person. But do not rely mostly on what other people say because in order for you to be happy you need to value and love yourself first. You need to build your self-confidence.

No matter how good and skilled you are, if you do not know how to carry yourself in public, you’ll have the tendency to draw back and be shy. You are always positioned at the side; could never withstand a certain crowd. Confidence can also affect your decisions and choices; it also develops your convictions in several circumstances. 

In this article, I will provide you with 8 simple ways on how to value yourself. Here are the following:

  • Stop comparing yourself with other people. It is a given fact that all individuals are different from one another; you are unique (deal with it). Even if you have siblings or friends and you have common interests and personalities, you are still different in many ways as you have different approaches for your personal and social growth and development. Of course, as a human being, you have the propensity not to compare oneself to people with things (material or not) that you want but you do not have; it is practically normal. Did it make you happy? Did you gain something if you were to compare yourself with other individuals? No. So stop doing it.
  • Stop worrying about social acceptance. It is true that no man is an island, you are not a hermit. You need people in your life; people you meet every chapter of your life makes what and who you are today, regardless if they will cause you pain or happiness. You will still learn from them. But I must say that social acceptance is a very difficult one to deal with. In order for you to survive this game, you need to please some people and do things way over your boundaries or limitations, but if this is already habitual and it is already causing you too much burden, then stop. You have to know that even if you are too good to be true, there are still certain individuals who will not like you. And that is not your problem any longer. Just be yourself; if people set expectations or standards from you; it is not wrong to do them as no one will put expectations if they are not confident with your abilities. But do not make them as your focal point. You must be happy and passionate in anything you do. If people express their wants and needs from you, then you also have the right to do the same. Be honest with yourself and express what you think.
  • Your intrinsic value is more important than your extrinsic one. Sure, having a pleasing outer beauty can be of advantage in different situations (such as job application, academic aspects, etc.) but you have to remember that it is not the only factor that needs to be considered for people to judge and accept you. Most people would choose to build relationships with people who possess acceptable values and attitude rather than people who are pleasing outside but have a rotten attitude. This specific pointer I have to discuss with more details later on.
  • Give your best shot. Even if you have shortcomings or flaws, these do not make you a bad person. It makes you unique and different from other people and there is no one who does not have one. So in anything you do, you have to give your best. No one can draw your future but yourself; you have to bear in mind that the greatest battles are not those you have won but those battles you have fought hard. Also, do not rush; you have to have patience and be resourceful in order to go to the place you wanted to be. Despite of failure, if you exerted your best, you will not feel helpless.
  • Practice the value of giving and helping. Have you ever experience a situation where you helped a person in need and when that person appreciated your thoughtfulness, you felt happy? That is the purpose of practicing the act of giving and helping. The genuine act of giving or helping is not the reward you will get in return, but the appreciation and warmth you get from the people involved. Like in one of my experiences, even if my parents do not notice my good deeds nor compliment me, I still manage to help them in times of troubles (Got to blog about this later on as well).
  • Do not rush; instead live your life one step at a time. Did you watch Adam Sandler’s movie, Click? If you have, Michael Newman, Sandler’s character missed so many events in his life as he kept on fast forwarding episodes. In reality, of course, you cannot find a powerful remote control like in the movie but there are times that you wish a specific moment to be fast forwarded and just end it. Well, you have to do the exact opposite of it; you should not rush any moment you are in right now. You have to enjoy where you at because even a small detail can teach you in life.
  • Attain what you want to attain. Dreams are said to be just dreams (not goals) if you will not take actions to achieve it and those dreams are your purpose, which is why you are alive. Your purpose in life is what keeps you going. It acts as fuel which burns the fire within you and maintain your enthusiasm and hope.
  • Being unique is neither weird nor strange. You are gifted with a unique set of skills, talents and physical attributes. It may not look good for you but might be pleasing to others, vice versa. And there are also times where you tend to overlook what you have, simply because you are too busy comparing yourself with others. All you need to do is love what you have and share it to others (And yes, I’ll blog on this, so stay tune!).

If you beyond doubt value yourself, you will refrain yourself from doing things which can damage or harm your opportunities in having a balanced, joyous and healthy life. You have to start gaining your confidence, self-contentment and self-worth, and make them your precedence as you toil your way to be the best individual you can be.

What are your thoughts? Are these pointers helpful or did I miss something else? Drop a comment and lets share our ideas. Thanks for dropping by, Lovelies 🙂 ❤