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SHORT BLOG: Uncommon Ways to Manage Stress

Yes, meditation is always mentioned in Stress Management, however, you will get to see some weird and uncommon ways to manage the level of stress you currently possess. Sometimes, adding a bit of wit, humor, and odd techniques will keep your interest in practicing such approaches every single day.

The secret behind the green nail polish

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Most psychologists say that having a sight of green pigment has calming effects and could help in organizing your stress. This is one unique way in reducing stress, and all you need to do is place a dot of green nail polish to a certain thing you always bring every day. This dot will be a sort of a reminder that you need to take it slow and relax for a while.

Match your dress code with a rubber band around your wrist

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Some might even laugh due to this technique’s absurdity; however, a specific psychologist named B.F. Skinner stated that punishment is employed rather than reinforcement. Try wearing a rubber band around your wrist and every single time you feel stress, snap the band. In doing so, you are hypothetically associating stress with the pinch when you snap the band. Eventually, you will subconsciously attempt to avoid the feeling. Moreover, when you avoid it, alter it with a more positive routine. Remember; always try to make it a point to incorporate the four major A’s in dealing with your stress.

Always bring chewing gum wherever you go

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Chewing gum does not only freshen up your breath but it also minimizes anxiety and stress. In the year 2008, a study was led by Dr. Andrew Scholey, which tested the participants by allowing them to chew gum regularly. After a couple of months, those participants who chewed gum were established with lower anxiety level, reduced stress, and increased alertness rather than those participants who did not. So, I do not know about you, but I might as well bring a pack of Double Mints. There is no harm in trying anyway.

In view of the fact that every single person has a one of its kind reaction to stress, there is zero “one-size-fits-all” solution to dealing with it. No solitary procedure or method works for everybody. As a result, make use of the different strategies and methods. Put your focus on the things that make you feel relax and in control.   

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Child in a State of Anxiety: The Do’s and Don’ts

The last thing you want to do when a child is anxious is make them feel fear. To prevent from this thing happening, building respect is the best solution. Conversely, respecting your child’s feelings is somewhat difficult for a parent. Why? Because most parents have the belief that they are always right and they always know what is the best for everyone. Well, this is not actually true. Experience wise, yes, you are ahead of your children but when we are talking about feelings, experience is not the topmost criterion for that.

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Here are the top ten to do and not to do when your child is experiencing anxiety:

#1. Assist a child to manage anxieties.

Nobody wants to see any child suffer from his or her own worries that make him or her unhappy. However, we need to face reality that anxieties cannot be totally eliminated from anyone’s system; and the preeminent approach we can do is to assist them in learning how to endure and accept their personal anxieties. That they can still function normally and continue with their life even if anxieties are everywhere. We have to teach them how to react in a more positive and motivating manner rather than dwelling on the negative side of such.

#2. Prevent from giving band-aid solutions to anxieties.

In dealing with anxieties, do not let your child avoid such things by getting away or escaping from it because it will only underpin anxieties in a long run. You must let them face their anxieties and since they are just kids, proper guidance should still be present. Do not take control over the situation instead support them and make them feel that you are always there to back them up. However, you have to make certain that giving out help is well-balanced or not too much. You do not want your child be much dependable on you during such times. Giving your child proper advises or options, letting them know that consequences of their actions or giving them encouragement will make a whole lot of difference.

#3. Positive yet realistic expectations are better than false hopes.

Do not promise your child that everything is fine and dandy; that there is no chance of failing an exam, everybody will like him or her, or nobody will laugh at his or her mistake during a showcase. However, you can convey assurance that he or she will be able to manage it; that everybody commits mistakes or everybody has flaws and shortcomings. You need to make a child be open to all possibilities regardless if it is good or bad.

#4. Respect but do not empower a child’s feelings.

It is exceptionally significant to recognize that confirmation does not constantly mean agreement. Therefore, if a child is scared or anxious about getting a vaccination, you do not want to neither ridicule his or her feelings nor intensify them. Listen and sympathize with your child, then encourage him or her that he or she can manage it. The message you would like to relay is, “I know you are afraid but that is alright and I’ll come with you to hold your hand.”

#5. No to leading questions.

Do not ask leading questions when you seem to find a child suffering from anxiety. Because if you do, you will only make it worse instead of opening an opportunity to fix the problem. From the word itself, these questions lead to state of panic and give a completely new set of pressure to a child. Rather than using leading questions, it would be better to raise open-ended questions. Open-ended questions persuade a child to talk more about his or her feelings rather than leading questions.

#6. Prevent from reinforcing or emphasizing a child’s fears.

“Probably this is a thing that you need to be afraid of.” This statement is an example of reinforcing a child’s fear plus saying it in a stern tone or gesture. Such statement does not help the situation either; you do not want to aggravate the fear of a child. So express your thoughts or insights in a more non-threatening or non-sarcastic way.

#7. A compliment makes a difference.

If a child is already struggling at school and he or she is constantly having difficulty to fit in, make it a habit to compliment his or her hard work. You have to let a child knows that the effort he or she is exerting is not a waste. Uplifting a child’s confidence brings encouragement and will to continue to deal with anxiety; and later on will reduce the worries until it reaches a point where a child is not that bothered at all. Home is definitely a child’s comfort zone and you must not take that away from him or her.

#8. Make time; do not make any excuses or alibis.

It is given that in an average household, both parents are busy working and attending to other things as well. However, that is not an excuse for you not to have quality time for your children. If you do not have time, make time. Time management is not an easy job but to start it off, make use of Stephen Covey’s Time Management Matrix. Covey’s time management is divided into 4 quadrants and it is based from urgency versus importance. List down what are the things that are urgent and important, urgent but not important, important but not urgent, and not important and not urgent. Spending time with a child to talk about anything under the sun will not only benefit your child but will also benefit you. You both learn things during conversation and get to know each other better because let us face the truth, not all parents know their children and vice versa.

#9. Practice what you preach.

A reason why most children do not believe advises the parents give is because most of the times these advises are mere advises; parents do not even practice what they say to their children. Therefore, be a good influence or example to your children. I am not saying that you need to pretend you do not have your own personal anxieties or worries but you must show your children how you take them, manage them and feel good facing them.

#10. Prevent from passing your own anxieties to your children.

A rule of thumb and this last point is the most important of them all. You must avoid from passing your personal anxieties to your child. First of all, it is not their fault that you have your personal issues and they should not take the blame of it. However, it is not also a bad idea to share your anxieties with your child; maybe in this case, it will open a door for your child to relay his or her own worries as well. With this, you can work and get through things together.

There is nothing wrong in protecting a child from any type of anxiety but it is wrong to take full control over a child’s anxiety from him or her. You are there to support and encourage but let them handle anxiety on their own.

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SHORT BLOG: Are You an Alpha or a Beta Male?

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The alpha male opposed to the beta male discussion is an ongoing open debate for a long period of time. One of the many questions raised in this debate is if majority of the woman population like male traits that are likely to be more fostering or are they after the control inclinations and more straight or direct communication. Through this blog, we will make an effort to go over the advantages and disadvantages of each type. This is something any male can gain from both ways so might as well check it out.

Primarily, we could declare something constructive about the beta males. They have the propensity to be more affectionate and considerate and are also better listeners. However, one of the many things, which make males beta males, is being jack-of-all-trades or simply doing too much things even if it is beyond of their control. The self-assured or confident male type is capable of being affectionate and considerate except he does not drown a person in too much attention. This is the reason that makes this type of male more eye-catching to any woman. In any place you go, it is not difficult to distinguish dominate self-assured guy compared to the timid one. The weaker male is frenzied with gratifying his woman and looking for her appreciation and approval. The confident type does not have to ask for an approval from his woman or friends. For the reason that, he knows that being true to himself is the most established and mature thing to do.

What causes the alpha type of male unappealing are the identical kinds of things, which can cause him standoffish to the standard or average male; things resembling to being a typical douche who is trying to draw interest and attention to himself and being a massive sting to everybody around him. The predicament with such type of male is not the factual self-assured male for the reason that they are too certain in themselves in drawing attention by being strident and demeaning people around him. Imagine them more as the chief executive type who is calm and bold, who knows how to show no off-putting feelings such as annoyance or misery. You have to understand that such minute feelings that cause you to go nuts or displeased are beta traits. Do not get over-involved on anything dim-witted obstacles in your way. You just have to know what you must do and succeed.

In reality, most women would like to have a dominate self-assured male for the reason that this type shows the classic or typical hints of being self-supported. She knows very well that this type of person has the ability to provide, and not just whine and nitpick on how awful things are. Regardless of the era, nationality, culture or country, this woman’s standard has not changed at all. You have to prove to her that you are aware on what you are doing. In addition to that, you have to guarantee that you will be able to provide and protect her. And when you do, you are on the correct route towards becoming a true alpha male.

I’d like to hear your thoughts regarding this. Please drop a comment below to share your thoughts. Thanks, Lovelies! 🙂 ❤

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Choose The People In Your Life

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The people in your life can be divided into three groups in general. The first group would be the people who you really love and you definitely need in your life. The second group would consist of random friends who you’re not really close to, acquaintances, people who you do not benefit from. The third group would then consist of people you do not like, people who drag you down, people who make your life more complicated than it should be. In this blog, I will help you sort them out and yes, this is based from my personal journey in life.

Know the people in your life. This is something simple enough to do. Check your address book, your contacts on your mobile phone, your friends on Facebook or any other social networking applications, the people you work with, the people you email, basically everyone you interact with on a regular basis.

Form the first group. This one will be pretty basic; of course you include your immediate family and your closest friends in this group. They will provide stability and balance in your life whenever you need guidance and whenever you are feeling stressed or pressured. You can also include in this group, assets. People who can help you move towards your goals. These people are also important because they make your life simpler in the sense that it is easier to do the things you want to do because of them.

Form the second group. Now the people in the second group might be a bit harder to distinguish because they don’t really harm you in any way but you don’t really see any benefit that you can get from them as of the moment. So why cut them out of your life? Well because dealing with fewer people is equal to having a more simple life. Without these people you don’t get invites to events that you don’t really want to go to, you don’t get asked for favors from people you barely know, you don’t have to send greeting cards or gifts to them on certain occasions. It’s just simpler that way.

Form the third group. This group will be a lot easier to distinguish than the second group. First of all choose the people who you do not like. Why should you forget about them? Simple, because they make your life more complicated, they give you more problems and thus more stress. You don’t want that. Same goes for the people who drag you down.

An example of this could be free loaders of leeches. They’re parasites and having them in your life gives you no benefit whatsoever. Imagine someone who keeps on borrowing money from you but never really pays you back on time. It gives you one more problem to think about because it messes up the steps that you have previously taken. (E.g. budgeting)

Don’t take this blog too literally. Just because I told you to cut out groups two and three from your life doesn’t mean that you avoid them completely even when they’re the ones who approach you. Doing that will get you a lot of enemies and that is not something you want if you’re aiming for simplicity in your life. What this blog is telling you to do is to avoid the distractions and the clutter.

Don’t go looking for them and when they come to you deal with it as quickly as possible then go back to your own life. Unless of course you’re looking to completely isolate yourself from the world then I guess you could take this blog literally.

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Who Cares About What You Wear

A lot of people believe that image is everything and that first impressions always last. How does one normally give a good first impression? By looking good and dressing up nicely. However that does not necessarily mean buying the latest fashion designs and designer brands. I will share to you five simple steps on what you should do about this.

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Step One: Know what you like and what looks good on you. I know, not everyone has an eye for fashion but “fashion” is very subjective. Don’t let others decide what looks good and what doesn’t. Just because your outfit for the day doesn’t cost a fortune doesn’t mean it doesn’t look good. Always remember the brand isn’t everything. Hermes and Armani will not change how people feel towards you. Regardless of what brand you are wearing, it always has to be the confidence that matters. This will save you a whole lot of trouble and money when it comes to choosing what to wear.

Step Two: Choose comfort over design. Of course I am not telling you that it is okay to go out in your pajamas or go out dressed like you’re at home. What I’m saying is that it is better to wear something that you will feel comfortable in even if you have to wear it the whole day than if you wear something that looks very nice but it irritates you in the long run because it makes you feel too hot or too cold.

I bet everybody would agree that corporate or business outfits are not that comfortable as your casual attire, but you do not have any option as that is the dress code ordered by your company. However, there are a lot of comfy shoes and suits available, even corporate dresses for women.

Again, always match your clothes with the event you are going to. Remember Bridget Jones going to a socialite party with her playboy costume? ( I know, I know, this movie is an old one but eh who doesn’t like this flick?) You wouldn’t like to be the laughing-stock of everybody, would you?

Step Three: Learn how to mix and match. The clothes you already have will definitely look good when you pair it with some other item in your wardrobe. You don’t need to buy a new shirt that goes with a new pair of pants every time, that will be very costly and it will take up a lot of space which is very counterproductive to what you are trying to achieve. You don’t have to own every colors of a single item just to match it with the color of your shoes or accessories.

You have to remember that for the basic clothes, stick with neutral colors like black, white, gray, brown and blue. These colors can be match with anything unlike bright colors such as orange, pink or green.

Step Four: Buy clothes that you can use for different events. There are a lot of clothes that can be used either for casual wear or semi-formal events. Take a collared shirt for example, you can pair those with shorts and you’re good to go or if you’re looking for a more formal look pair them with slacks. Again doing this will save you a lot of money and a lot of space in your closet.

Step Five: Know where to get fashion advice. If you really care about what you look like and what you wear then it is probably a good idea to look for some advice. However not everything is good advice. Some people would advise you to buy certain brands that are considered popular and of high quality but in truth it is just the brand that makes it good. That will do you no good. If you’re looking for advice just look for things like what colors match, what kinds of material are comfortable, where you can get the best deal for clothes, shoes, accessories, etc.

I’m not telling you to be cheap, rather be affordable. In the long run, it only does not save you money but it will help you minimize swiping your card to buy expensive clothes. Dress to impress doesn’t always mean designer clothes, always be wise in spending your hard-earned money. I know, I’m that repetitive. Sorry.

Share your thoughts and drop a comment below, Lovelies. 🙂 ❤

 

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Homemade Deodorant With Baking Soda

Several natural ingredients you could use in creating your own homemade deodorant and antiperspirant; some are a little bit expensive and others are just sitting in your cupboard. Baking soda is a commonly use product in your kitchen and it does not only in batter mix or baking pastries but it can also be used in your own deodorant recipes.

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Baking soda is a substitute product that can prevent continuous sweating in the armpit area. It can surprisingly absorb moisture making it as one of the many popular herbal with antiperspirant property.

Ingredients

  • 1/4 cup of baking soda
  • ¼ cup of arrowroot powder or cornstarch
  • 5 tablespoonfuls of coconut oil
  • Your preferred essential oil

Procedure

  1. Since we are talking about homemade recipes, it would be better if we are going to do it in an eco-friendly manner. Look for a canister or container that you are not already using. For women, this is going to be easy as you have many cosmetic containers that you do not use anymore. Wash the container and clean all the residues inside it. Dry it out with the use of a towel.
  1. Pour ¼ cup of your baking soda in the container. There is no specific baking soda that needs to be utilized in this recipe. Any brand of baking soda will do.
  1. After pouring the baking soda, add the ¼ cup of arrowroot powder. If arrowroot powder is not available, you can substitute it with cornstarch. Arrowroot is more beneficial than cornstarch because it feels more natural on your skin. Nevertheless, if you forgot to purchase arrowroot powder before making this recipe, you can always use cornstarch instead. Cornstarch can be either talc-free or not. These powders lessen the amount of sweat produced. In addition, cornstarch and arrowroot powder tames the irritating effect of baking soda.
  1. Mix the baking soda and the arrowroot powder or cornstarch very well.
  1. After mixing both ingredients, pour the five tablespoonfuls of coconut oil. Sometimes coconut oil hardens and when it does, heat it up in low fire until it is completely melted. Cool it down for two to three minutes and pour it in the mixture. Do not pour it abruptly after heating it because it will cook the baking soda or cornstarch.
  1. Lastly, pour your desired essential oil. This last step is optional but if you would like to add an essential oil, try using tea tree oil as it has an antibacterial effect. So to speak, you are not only creating an antiperspirant deodorant but it also reduces bacterial growth. You can make use of two or four essential oils, depending on your choice. However, you need to research if it is fine to mix these oils and check on the label for concentration value. The number of drops is based on the concentration rate of an essential oil.
  1. Mix all the ingredients evenly. Once you are done, close the lid and start using it after taking a bath.

Checking on all possible ingredients to make your own homemade recipe is more convenient and less harmful than buying chemically made products. Try this recipe at home and see the difference within few weeks. However, please continue reading below to know few helpful tips about homemade deodorant.

Given the fact that body odor cannot be stopped because secretion of sweat is a normal part of our body processes. It is one way of secreting the unwanted remnants in our system; but what we can control is the smell of the body odors produced. We all know that most of the deodorants and antiperspirants available in all local markets contain chemical substances that are harmful to our skin. These compounds can cause skin irritability or even allergies especially if your skin is sensitive.

bakingsoda1With the fear of damaging our skin, most homemade recipe practitioners and enthusiasts are continuously creating recipes to substitute these commercialized products. Several pros or dos come along with the homemade recipes. On the other hand, we could not deny the cons or don’ts of it as well.

The Do’s of Using Homemade Deodorant

Using all-natural deodorant that contains any of the following: lavender, tea tree oil or peppermint will prevent or reduce the growth of bacteria because these organic ingredients have certain antibacterial or antimicrobial properties.

It is indeed true that salt crystals are a no-no but it really depends on how you make use of them. These crystals are highly suggested for individuals who do not sweat a lot. To make the salt crystals work; mix it with a homemade talc powder or with another homemade deodorant.

In making your own recipes, stick with simple all-natural ingredients. Some of it can be found at your own home and others are commonly offered at your local stores. Not all of these ingredients are affordable especially if we are talking about essential oils. So always, make use of what is readily available on your end.

If you would like to use alcohol as a base ingredient of your homemade deodorant, DO NOT use Isopropyl alcohol because it is scientifically proven that it has adverse effects on your skin. Instead, try using high-proofed Ethyl alcohol.

Always check on the label of the organic ingredients you are going to use. You have to identify if the ingredient is highly concentrated or not, as it might hurt or sting when you are going to use it, specifically if your armpits are newly shaved.

Even if the ingredients are organic, not all is a match with your skin type. In order to prevent any skin irritation or damage, do a skin test first and see if there are any negative reactions.

The Don’ts of Using Homemade Deodorant

It is necessary to be patient in using homemade deodorants. Do not stop after 3 days of usage because you have to let your skin adapt to the changes. Your skin is accustomed with chemical components from the regular deodorant you have been using for years. It takes time to balance it out.

Do not apply baking soda directly to your skin; look for homemade recipes that require specific ingredients to be mixed with baking soda.

It is better to use homemade recipes for your underarm problems however these alternatives will not help unless you take a bath or apply the guidelines for proper hygiene.

Any tips or homemade recipes you’re willing to share? Drop a comment or link your blog, Lovelies. Thanks for a weekend Pinay Time with me. 🙂 ❤

 

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De-cluttering 101: Avoid Media

You might be wondering what this has to do with living a simple and de-cluttered life. Well I’m telling you it has a lot to do with it. Everyone knows that capitalism is the ruling ideology in this world and that every establishment/company out there is only concerned about getting your money and not satisfying your needs. Media makes your life cluttered by making you want things buy things that you don’t really need and that you’ll end up forgetting about once there’s a new thing that they’re trying to get you to buy. This literally and metaphorically makes your life messier! So how do we deal with this?

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Step One: Watch less TV. Of course it is still important to watch TV for certain things such as watching the news and once in a while watching some shows to relax. However one of the biggest ways of advertising is through TV commercials. You might think that these commercials are harmless and they don’t affect you in any way but don’t think too high of yourself. Companies spend millions even billions on advertising, trying to find the perfect pitch that will hook television viewers into wanting, into buying their products. You can’t change the channel every time a commercial goes on that would be too much effort. The simplest thing to do is to just watch less. Besides it won’t do you any harm to go out and do something else.

Step Two: Don’t use social media networking sites and apps. Yes using Facebook is an easy way to connect to people. Yes, checking twitter is an easy way to find out what other people are doing. Yes, checking out Instagram is an easy way to check out the recent adventures of people. But what’s wrong with just texting or calling? If you want to live a simple and de-cluttered life, stop concerning yourself with the lives of other people. You have your family and your closest friends that’s enough to get you through life and not feel so stressed about it all the time.

Think about it, what would you normally see on these social networking sites? Someone post about how they had an amazing vacation in some faraway place that you didn’t even know existed, you see someone tweet about their feelings and what song they’re emoting too, you’d see someone post a picture of what they had for breakfast or lunch or dinner. You will see a lot of things that have no use in your life but may affect your priorities and decisions. Face it; we all get a little bit jealous sometimes.

Step Three: Get yourself a hobby. If you don’t know what to replace social media with try to find a hobby. It could be anything ranging from sports, to collecting things, to building things etc. Having a hobby is a great way to help you focus and maintain balance in your life. Instead of being unproductive and doing useless things during your spare time doing something you love will give more relaxation and will make your life simpler and de-cluttered.

Personally, I find that blogging, cooking and running really help me focus and keep my life in order. They are great ways to release stress and frustrations from other things in my life. Other than that I really enjoy doing these things.

Step Four: Be more productive. Instead of bumming around in front of the computer or the television look for something to do that will de-clutter your life. One way of literally de-cluttering your life is cleaning your living space. Having clean surroundings fosters good thoughts and good ideas. It also makes you healthier so it is actually a necessity. De-cluttering your home is also simplifying your life.

Step Five: Stop idolizing other people. Envy is a very powerful thing. It can lead people to doing the most horrible of things. It certainly doesn’t do anyone any good whatsoever. So live your own life. Imagine the simple life that you’ve always wanted, stop dreaming about the lives of celebrities and stars because that is the complete opposite of what you want to achieve. Envy is also intertwined with jealousy and when these two are put together, insecurities will build up. Insecurities will just pull you back and will affect how you interact with other people. So instead of having day dreams how to be rich and famous and spend half of your day wishful thinking, snap back to reality. Remember simple is better!

Do you agree on this or not? Share your thoughts, drop a comment below, Lovelies. 🙂 ❤

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SHORT BLOG: #Respect

We are going to talk about respect and woman empowerment; how this is connected with your self-esteem. It mirrors your self-worth. If you have a clear understanding with self-esteem, you would have a brief overview why respect is connected with self-esteem.

When you value yourself and you love what you have, you gain confidence and have a sense of contentment. And when you do, you know how to respect yourself and the end result, you show respect to other people. You see, respect is not being forced, it is always being earned. You cannot ask people to respect you if they see or hear things opposite of what you want. People pay their respect towards you depending on how you treat others and how you present yourself; inside and out.

If you’ll look into all social media networks, posting your “selcas” or “selfies” is quite rampant. Let us take Facebook as an example, you see women posting pictures in their bikinis or overly exposed clothes but in their caption, you’ll see the statement “respect my post.” I mean, how can you respect a person with the way they dress? Plus their provocative facial expression.

This does not mean to judge or criticize the way you dress but come on, you know for a fact that you cannot control how other people react. So might as well apply the 90/10 rule. You can only control 10% of the whole situation, meaning you can only control what you have shared. So if you want to be respected, you have to always present yourself in a proper way. And please, do not even think of commenting that example of posting picture in a bikini is a form of art because it is not.

There are also instances that no matter properly mannered you are there are always certain individuals who will disrespect you. Instead of wasting your time in explaining or preaching them about respect, do not be bothered because karma will slap them in due time.

Be sincere and considerate to others are simple ways to show your respect. When giving out your opinions, feedback or standpoint, you have to always check the choice of words you use as some words could be threatening. It does not mean that you need not to voice out your thoughts; it’s just a matter of how you deliver your message.

And last but not the least, you have to remember to pay respect to yourself; not only your body but your totality as a person. Putting others before you is an example of altruism of selflessness; it is considered a kind and sincere act and people will take you in a different light. It is self-fulfilling to actually help others but doing this over and over damages your self-respect. It is not bad to be selfish at times because if people need help from others, you also need to help yourself as well. You cannot give respect if you cannot give it to yourself first.

I’d love to hear your thoughts regarding this matter, Lovelies. Drop a comment and let us start our Pinay Time! 🙂 ❤