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The Power of Words: Bullying, Insults and Bad-mouthing

Bullying or any form of bad-mouthing has a greater effect to one’s self-esteem. It deteriorates a person’s confidence and interaction with other individuals. Words coming out from your mouth are powerful and destructive, if you used it in a wrong or incorrect way. It is true that words are sharper than swords.

Sometimes people thought that when they drop a joke, regarding the physical appearance of a person, is humorous. The audience and the doer could actually perceive it as a normal or regular joke, but have you ever thought of the subject’s feelings? The victim of the given joke might be smiling or laughing outside, however he or she might be offended inside. Most victims have the tendency to hide their true feelings when people treat them as the laughing stock of the bunch, primarily because of they don’t want to be tagged as party poopers or joy killers. They want people to say that they can be as cool as others too.

People who are victims of bullying or bad mouthing does not only lower their morale and self-esteem but sometimes, they tend to practice what they have experience to other people as well. It is like a revenge of the “punk’ds.” They want other people feel like when you are the topic of a comical get together. Instead of just saying out loud that you were offended, you want others to encounter it. You want them to be the victim and see how humiliated they can be.

Bullying, insults and bad mouthing are all the same; they are verbally given to mock, intimidate or dominate other people. These can be described in different contexts such as:

  • Cyber bullying. This type of bullying is by far the most common nowadays as it is done over the use of the World Wide Web. Due to limited parental control, cyber bullying is often undetected as many internet users uses pseudonyms or face accounts to mock or insult certain individuals. Netizens or online bashers post hateful messages or comments to humiliate other people.
  • Handicapped bullying. Even if different countries have set some laws to protect the rights of disabled or handicapped individuals, some people still perform such mockery. Some establishments or companies also practice handicapped bullying. For example, restaurants those prohibit mentally disabilities from dining in or companies that do not let these disabled citizens to apply for a job vacancy.
  • Third Sex bullying. Though most people are open-minded due to modernization and diversity in culture, they still stick with their tradition. Most of them do not mind having gays, lesbians or bisexuals walking in the same park but they do not want LGBT communities have the same equal rights they have.
  • Parental bullying. Some parents have the tendency to humiliate or throw hateful words to their children as a result of their anger or disappointment. But you have to remember that you do not own your children; they are also humans and have their own preferences in life. You, as a parent, can only guide and teach them but do not have the right to dominate their lives.
  • Academe bullying. Due to different clicks and segregation of the cool groups from the nerdy groups, bullying can also start from school. Normally, this takes place during extracurricular activities or breaks. There are also cases where teachers bully their students in front of the class.
  • Work setting bullying. This takes place in a working environment between a supervisor and a subordinate or from both subordinates.

There is a huge list of different types of bullying, but we have just named a few. The bottom line is, regardless of whom, where and when you drop a bomb; as long as you insulted or humiliated a person and you do this habitually it is already considered bullying.

The Upshot of Bullying

We all of heard of a common bullying experience, from the entire situation where one was bullied, it affected one’s life as he or she grows older; there are pent up emotions and hatred formation. If bullying happened once, it is already considered abusive, but if it is done on several occasions it may result in a very serious problem.

If you happened to be in a comedy bar once, you know that most stand-up comedians use mockery or insult as part of their jokes. You, as an audience, might laughed about it especially if these jokes are well delivered. In addition to this, most jokes are half meant; it is an alternative way to deliver one’s thought instead of using a formal, serious approach.

But because of these things, there are several short and long term effects of bullying. Here are some:

Short term Upshots of Bullying

  • Annoyance or rage
  • Melancholy or misery
  • Health related problems such us vomiting and nausea
  • Low performance in work or school
  • Suicidal notion

Long term Upshots of Bullying

  • Limited opportunities in life
  • A deeper yearning for revenge
  • Trust issues
  • Several fear formation, fear of rejection included
  • Propensity to become an anti-social or loner
  • Hypersensitive
  • Severe health related problems such as panic disorder or bipolar personality

How to fight bullying?

In any path you take, you will never get away with bullying. You can be a victim in one or two occasions and be the doer at some cases as well. But all these boil down to one common denominator – You. Yes, you read it right. It will start and end within yourself. It does not matter if you have experienced it from the past; the important thing you need to bear in mind is today matters. You have to get rid of the word revenge. You have to learn that you do not have the control to other people’s action but you could always influence them to do well.

This is an excerpt from an electronic book that I have written years ago. Yes, beautiful people I was once a ghost writer. I hope I opened your thinking caps that bullying or any form of bad mouthing is a serious issue we are facing nowadays. Do you have a story of your own about bullying? Were you the victim or the doer? What did you do at the end? Comment and share you personal experience. Thanks for reading! ❤

 

 

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The Day When You Stopped Giving 2 Flying F’s to People

If you are keeping up with my posts, the latest article I’ve posted (hopefully) gave you an idea that I have lost a very dear childhood friend. He was there when I needed someone to lean on; he was my partner in crime. I could still remember the long late night drives, stealing candy bars at my mom’s, phone call pranks…and that warm hug when I’m sad. It shattered me to pieces and to top it off, I have been dealing few issues. It’s true what they usually say, “When it rains, it pours.” Yes, problems have been pouring left and right.

With all the advises and how to’s I’m sharing, I honestly can say, I’m lost; I don’t know where or how to start picking up the pieces. I guess, this is one of those days where you are on the verge of giving up. Then, few people you care, instead of understanding you, they add up to what you’re going through. Like, dude, could you please be considerate? I mean, stop the BS for once. BUT NOOOO… they will keep on pushing and pushing it till you reach the point that you don’t give a flying f*** and an apple pie. Yes, I’m on that phase and I do hope, I’ll get through it. I know I’m strong, but how? when? where? and why? The endless questions you ask yourself…

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The reason why I haven’t blogged in a while…

Losing someone close to your heart is unexplainable; how would you feel once you hear the news that someone passed away. You may feel anger, sadness or even depression but these words cannot explain what you truly feel; it is definitely beyond that. Getting over such grief is not easy; it is a process of denial, acceptance and moving on with your life and everybody knows that all these cannot be done in a day or a week. Sometimes it may take almost a year before you could totally say that you are in a stable state.

There are relapses through the process; there are times you might feel better and there are also times where you find yourself crying. There are no shortcuts; you have to go through the process, however there are certain ways which can help ease the pain. It may not totally remove you from sadness or misery but it will surely help you cope up with the loss.

The focal point of this post is to convince you that grieving alone is not going to help; do not isolate yourself because having someone to grieve with you is far better than self-seclusion.

Grieve With Your Family

Regardless of the relationship you have with the deceased, you have to grieve with your family. Family is the foundation of any individual and keeping yourself close to them especially in times like this will help you get by. Your family members are the individuals who know you better than anyone else in your network. There are some instances that even when you don’t talk they already know you are going through pain.

Grieving with your family will let you be yourself; no pretensions, no cover ups, just you. Tell them how you feel and you need them to help you pass this phase. You don’t have to tell all the members of the family as you have the option to choose few members whom you think will lend their ears when you talk.

Grieve With Friends

Not everybody is close to their families and we are not going to tackle that area because each individual has different reasons as to why. If you are in the same situation where you feel more comfortable with your friends rather than with your family, that is absolutely fine. You could talk to your best friend or 2-3 of them and seek for guidance.

You could ask them to come with you to a place where you can relieve your mind for a while. Your friends are people next to your family and sometimes you consider them your family; and with this, you’ll feel more secure.

Grieve With a Community Group

They say that to cope of with this kind of situation, it is better to talk with people who have the same experience like you. You feel more emotionally attached with this group as you know have a common ground; you comfort each other and help each other. Hearing their stories will help you in an inspiring and a positive way, thus it prevents you from entering the world of depression.

There are no rules as to whom you should share your grievances but keep in mind that pent-up anger and sadness will only make the situation worse so you have to find an outlet to release those emotions.

Rest in peace, Ricky Icky. You will always be missed.

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Are You Ready To Commit?

byob.pngEvery individual’s lifelong dream is to be their own boss; and when the opportunity comes, our initial reaction is to grab it even without thinking of the consequences later on. There are some who experience being in a company for more than a decade and would like to quit their job and start a business with the hard-earned money they have saved up for. While others are living in a paycheck to paycheck basis but are willing to apply for a bank loan to change their route towards the entrepreneurship community. We can come up with several reasons why we would like to start a business of our own but the main question here is if we are ready to commit to a very much dynamic world than we are used to. We have this common notion that as long as we put our 100% effort, everything will work out fine. In some ways it is correct, but snap back to reality and think it over for a couple of times. Joining the business venture is not a no-brainer. It does not only involve your effort but it also involves several factors that will exhaust your intellectual, emotional and social abilities.

It is not just an ordinary decision that we make every day because if the time will come your business is not working; you can’t just give up and go back to your past endeavors. This decision, my friend will reflect on how you take things seriously as it will affect your entirety.

Being committed into something you would love to do is a satisfying feeling, but that does not mean you are not scared of what will happen in the near future; you have concerns and a certain fear of uncertainty. But who doesn’t? To help you have a clearer and bigger picture of what you are trying to put yourself into, here are two important points you need to ponder:

No more pointing fingers this time

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I’m assuming that most of us have work experiences and one common scenario is when a given task was not approved, we didn’t take the blame; we pointed it out to other people. Oh for goodness gracious, do not reason out that you haven’t done it. Everybody has a fair share of trying to get away from a mistake; it may not be at your work place but it did happen.

This time eradicate that attitude because in venturing into business or being self-employed, no one is to blame but you. You made the decision, deal with it. Having a good sense of accountability will take you to success. It will definitely deliver constructive results and will be of help in forming positive habits.

Think Out of the Box

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Earlier I did mention the fear of uncertainty and this is one of the major factors why most businesses fail in their first two years and there are some which already failed before starting it. Why? Because it is in our nature to be afraid to go out our comfort zone. We fear things we do not know, things which shut off our creativity and block what we are truly capable of. Do not restrict your mind in experimenting on things; that is what business all about. Look at how Steve Jobs expanded his company. Who could have thought of putting the functions of an mp3 player, a laptop and a phone in one?

I know you still have doubts and you’re a bit dazed, but this is just the beginning. In the next blogs (soon), you’ll be given that “needed push” to come up with a stronger and bolder decision later on. So, click on that Follow button to receive notifications from me. Thanks! 🙂 ❤

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13 Easy Steps in Becoming a Desirable Alpha Male

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He is definitely the type of man every person hopes to be: the chief executive of the business industry, the lead actor of a blockbuster movie, the captain of the ship, the commander of the pack. This person is THE Alpha Male. All men around the globe want to be him while all women in the universe fancy being with him. If you are one of these men who want to be seen as THE Alpha Male, then in this blog you will get to read and understand the simple steps to be that man.

#1. Be confident. Confidence is one of the six key traits an alpha male should have. However, being confident should not be overstated or flashy. It is not wrong to think greatly about yourself; and it is also not wrong to think undeniably in your qualifications and abilities. With such notion, men and even women will absolutely act in response to you. You have to know that there is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. Do not, in any situation, confuse arrogance with confidence or vice versa. Arrogance is merely low self-respect turned outwards. People think of an arrogant man as a depressed, insecure, immature man, which is the extremely exact opposite of the definition of an alpha male. Confidence on the other hand, illustrates calm internal and central strength, security, and dependability.

#2. Set your position in a group, event or any given occasion. In a given situation where you enter a room as the alpha male, you need to set your mind that people in there will listen and react to anything you have and want to say. Reactions vary, some might think you are pointless, your ideas are vague or to the extent that they will doubt everything, you say. Your main goal as an alpha male is that these people need to respect what you have or need to say. That you matter, that there should be an impact on what you are saying. This is not easy especially if you have a phobia of speaking to others but in the succeeding chapters, this will be further elaborated. The important point here is that you must not doubt of what you say because if you do, every single person in that room will definitely doubt you as well.

#3. Make use of wit to your gain. You have to know that using wit and humor does not mean you need to be the clown or laughing-stock of the crowd. This only means that you should be able to deliver punch lines in a timely responsive manner, smile with unadulterated pleasure, and to laugh or chuckle at yourself. Even to the point where you laugh at other’s comments or jokes but without being spiteful, malicious or cynical about it.

#4. Allow your own body to do the talk. The manner you present yourself speaks enough volume to other people around you, even if you are not making any sound. Your movements, you hand gestures, your mannerisms, and your posture – these launch signals to other people around you regarding your status in the society. Your goal is to make those signals confident and strong, not puny and protective. Below are some key pointers you need to understand:

  • You need to make certain that you practice what you really desire to be. Find out occasions where people gathered, and just walk right in that room proudly. If in any case you do not feel it, then try to remember a situation where you felt proud of yourself, and carry that same feeling every time you practice.
  • Teach yourself the Art of Body Language. There are two particular indications that almost all leaders utilize, and followers react to:
    • “Steepling” demonstrates an enough amount of confidence. You can make that steeple through pressing both your hands’ fingertips collectively, with your palms separated. Remember that you need not to go too high. When your fingertips touch the mouth area, you are showing lack of confidence so avoid doing this. For any 2-way conversation, the male with a higher steeple take charge or control of the conversation.
    • Both hands behind your back. This posture is a mind-set of exposure. You let somebody see power, courage, and confidence. You show your sincerity to listening when you hold both hands at the rear.
  • The eye contact. When you talk, walk around, or any particular movement, make certain to look into other people’s eyes. It signals power, sincerity, and charm. However, this could be extremely difficult if you are afraid in making an eye contact. What you can do is keep your eyes moving. Look them in the eye then move it down at the movement of their mouth when they talk.

#5. Do not be scared to load any place with your mere presence. Always bear in your heart and mind that alpha males stand out in the crowd. You have the stand with a powerful posture. Regardless if you talk, glance or just stand, you need to make use of unrestrained gestures. Lastly, even if you are exploding inside due to nervousness, you still need to look unperturbed and at ease in your environment.

#6. The Secret behind listening. You are considered a true leader when you become an alpha male. A real alpha male does not do the talking that much. In fact, he spends more of his time listening to others than talking. When you listen to what other people say, you need to listen attentively and actively. You have to make sure that when you listen, you listen without any signs of judgment. When people see this in you, more individuals will approach and open up to you. The secret behind listening is getting the trust of other people, which is an important alpha male trait.

#7. Alpha males follow other alpha males. One of the easiest and essential approaches to learn how to become an alpha male is by following or copying other alpha males. Observe their gestures, movements, and postures. Observe how they dress because all alpha males have a keen interest in fashion.

#8. Hit the gym and get physically fit. Having abs, toned biceps, and muscular chest is the least important trait of an alpha male because being a real alpha male comes from within. On the other hand, hitting the gym will maintain your body healthy, which signals that you have the ability to take care of others.

#9. Always make sure that you are honest. There are fake alpha males and other people easily distinguish them. Fake alpha males lie and usually cheat just to get what they want. However, a true alpha male is honest to himself and to the other people. He does not pretend just to be accepted by people.

#10. The proper dress code of a true alpha male. With the endless evolution of today’s fashion, even men try to look better. Alpha males do not wear what is trendy this year or the next one. He wears clothes to stand out from the rest of the males in the group. Avoid from wearing clothes that promote or market a brand, your favorite band or whatnot. You need to keep in mind that you should advertise yourself. Another case in point is that dressing well does not necessarily mean dressing up. Try to learn by heart the three important things:

  • Your wardrobe should always fit you well.
  • Your wardrobe should always be comfortable to wear.
  • Your attire should always be suitable and fitting to a particular event or occasion.

#11. Flirting is not always bad so you must learn it. Having the knowledge on how to build a romantic or intimate connection is vital to all alpha males. Being talented, well established, confident, and attractive does not essentially mean that you got what it truly takes to intermingle with your probable mate. On the other hand, it will give you an advantage. Learn the techniques of getting away from being friend zoned and different approaches on how to flirt properly. You do not want to send a wrong message to your potential mate and be slapped at the end, do you?

#12. Develop or learn new skills. Being true alpha ale is not just about confidence, fashion, hairstyle or being physically attractive. Developing new skills or abilities is also considered. This shows that you continuously learn and not afraid of change. You become dependable and well-rounded individual who people will search for when they have questions.

#13. Be a leader, not a mere follower. You do not have to be a manager or a department head to become a leader. And you have to know the difference between a boss and a leader because a leader does not only take control but also does it well. Offer help, take accountable of your mistakes, and share credit to colleagues are some of the things that identify a true leader.

You may find it interesting what kind of woman in the world giving tips about being a desirable Alpha Male. Well, having a male-dominated family tree and working with guys (for years) did the trick. What about you? Any tips you’d like to share? Drop a comment and let us share our ideas. Thanks for sharing Pinay Time with me, Lovelies. 🙂 ❤

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Child in a State of Anxiety: The Do’s and Don’ts

The last thing you want to do when a child is anxious is make them feel fear. To prevent from this thing happening, building respect is the best solution. Conversely, respecting your child’s feelings is somewhat difficult for a parent. Why? Because most parents have the belief that they are always right and they always know what is the best for everyone. Well, this is not actually true. Experience wise, yes, you are ahead of your children but when we are talking about feelings, experience is not the topmost criterion for that.

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Here are the top ten to do and not to do when your child is experiencing anxiety:

#1. Assist a child to manage anxieties.

Nobody wants to see any child suffer from his or her own worries that make him or her unhappy. However, we need to face reality that anxieties cannot be totally eliminated from anyone’s system; and the preeminent approach we can do is to assist them in learning how to endure and accept their personal anxieties. That they can still function normally and continue with their life even if anxieties are everywhere. We have to teach them how to react in a more positive and motivating manner rather than dwelling on the negative side of such.

#2. Prevent from giving band-aid solutions to anxieties.

In dealing with anxieties, do not let your child avoid such things by getting away or escaping from it because it will only underpin anxieties in a long run. You must let them face their anxieties and since they are just kids, proper guidance should still be present. Do not take control over the situation instead support them and make them feel that you are always there to back them up. However, you have to make certain that giving out help is well-balanced or not too much. You do not want your child be much dependable on you during such times. Giving your child proper advises or options, letting them know that consequences of their actions or giving them encouragement will make a whole lot of difference.

#3. Positive yet realistic expectations are better than false hopes.

Do not promise your child that everything is fine and dandy; that there is no chance of failing an exam, everybody will like him or her, or nobody will laugh at his or her mistake during a showcase. However, you can convey assurance that he or she will be able to manage it; that everybody commits mistakes or everybody has flaws and shortcomings. You need to make a child be open to all possibilities regardless if it is good or bad.

#4. Respect but do not empower a child’s feelings.

It is exceptionally significant to recognize that confirmation does not constantly mean agreement. Therefore, if a child is scared or anxious about getting a vaccination, you do not want to neither ridicule his or her feelings nor intensify them. Listen and sympathize with your child, then encourage him or her that he or she can manage it. The message you would like to relay is, “I know you are afraid but that is alright and I’ll come with you to hold your hand.”

#5. No to leading questions.

Do not ask leading questions when you seem to find a child suffering from anxiety. Because if you do, you will only make it worse instead of opening an opportunity to fix the problem. From the word itself, these questions lead to state of panic and give a completely new set of pressure to a child. Rather than using leading questions, it would be better to raise open-ended questions. Open-ended questions persuade a child to talk more about his or her feelings rather than leading questions.

#6. Prevent from reinforcing or emphasizing a child’s fears.

“Probably this is a thing that you need to be afraid of.” This statement is an example of reinforcing a child’s fear plus saying it in a stern tone or gesture. Such statement does not help the situation either; you do not want to aggravate the fear of a child. So express your thoughts or insights in a more non-threatening or non-sarcastic way.

#7. A compliment makes a difference.

If a child is already struggling at school and he or she is constantly having difficulty to fit in, make it a habit to compliment his or her hard work. You have to let a child knows that the effort he or she is exerting is not a waste. Uplifting a child’s confidence brings encouragement and will to continue to deal with anxiety; and later on will reduce the worries until it reaches a point where a child is not that bothered at all. Home is definitely a child’s comfort zone and you must not take that away from him or her.

#8. Make time; do not make any excuses or alibis.

It is given that in an average household, both parents are busy working and attending to other things as well. However, that is not an excuse for you not to have quality time for your children. If you do not have time, make time. Time management is not an easy job but to start it off, make use of Stephen Covey’s Time Management Matrix. Covey’s time management is divided into 4 quadrants and it is based from urgency versus importance. List down what are the things that are urgent and important, urgent but not important, important but not urgent, and not important and not urgent. Spending time with a child to talk about anything under the sun will not only benefit your child but will also benefit you. You both learn things during conversation and get to know each other better because let us face the truth, not all parents know their children and vice versa.

#9. Practice what you preach.

A reason why most children do not believe advises the parents give is because most of the times these advises are mere advises; parents do not even practice what they say to their children. Therefore, be a good influence or example to your children. I am not saying that you need to pretend you do not have your own personal anxieties or worries but you must show your children how you take them, manage them and feel good facing them.

#10. Prevent from passing your own anxieties to your children.

A rule of thumb and this last point is the most important of them all. You must avoid from passing your personal anxieties to your child. First of all, it is not their fault that you have your personal issues and they should not take the blame of it. However, it is not also a bad idea to share your anxieties with your child; maybe in this case, it will open a door for your child to relay his or her own worries as well. With this, you can work and get through things together.

There is nothing wrong in protecting a child from any type of anxiety but it is wrong to take full control over a child’s anxiety from him or her. You are there to support and encourage but let them handle anxiety on their own.

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Choose The People In Your Life

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The people in your life can be divided into three groups in general. The first group would be the people who you really love and you definitely need in your life. The second group would consist of random friends who you’re not really close to, acquaintances, people who you do not benefit from. The third group would then consist of people you do not like, people who drag you down, people who make your life more complicated than it should be. In this blog, I will help you sort them out and yes, this is based from my personal journey in life.

Know the people in your life. This is something simple enough to do. Check your address book, your contacts on your mobile phone, your friends on Facebook or any other social networking applications, the people you work with, the people you email, basically everyone you interact with on a regular basis.

Form the first group. This one will be pretty basic; of course you include your immediate family and your closest friends in this group. They will provide stability and balance in your life whenever you need guidance and whenever you are feeling stressed or pressured. You can also include in this group, assets. People who can help you move towards your goals. These people are also important because they make your life simpler in the sense that it is easier to do the things you want to do because of them.

Form the second group. Now the people in the second group might be a bit harder to distinguish because they don’t really harm you in any way but you don’t really see any benefit that you can get from them as of the moment. So why cut them out of your life? Well because dealing with fewer people is equal to having a more simple life. Without these people you don’t get invites to events that you don’t really want to go to, you don’t get asked for favors from people you barely know, you don’t have to send greeting cards or gifts to them on certain occasions. It’s just simpler that way.

Form the third group. This group will be a lot easier to distinguish than the second group. First of all choose the people who you do not like. Why should you forget about them? Simple, because they make your life more complicated, they give you more problems and thus more stress. You don’t want that. Same goes for the people who drag you down.

An example of this could be free loaders of leeches. They’re parasites and having them in your life gives you no benefit whatsoever. Imagine someone who keeps on borrowing money from you but never really pays you back on time. It gives you one more problem to think about because it messes up the steps that you have previously taken. (E.g. budgeting)

Don’t take this blog too literally. Just because I told you to cut out groups two and three from your life doesn’t mean that you avoid them completely even when they’re the ones who approach you. Doing that will get you a lot of enemies and that is not something you want if you’re aiming for simplicity in your life. What this blog is telling you to do is to avoid the distractions and the clutter.

Don’t go looking for them and when they come to you deal with it as quickly as possible then go back to your own life. Unless of course you’re looking to completely isolate yourself from the world then I guess you could take this blog literally.

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Who Cares About What You Wear

A lot of people believe that image is everything and that first impressions always last. How does one normally give a good first impression? By looking good and dressing up nicely. However that does not necessarily mean buying the latest fashion designs and designer brands. I will share to you five simple steps on what you should do about this.

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Step One: Know what you like and what looks good on you. I know, not everyone has an eye for fashion but “fashion” is very subjective. Don’t let others decide what looks good and what doesn’t. Just because your outfit for the day doesn’t cost a fortune doesn’t mean it doesn’t look good. Always remember the brand isn’t everything. Hermes and Armani will not change how people feel towards you. Regardless of what brand you are wearing, it always has to be the confidence that matters. This will save you a whole lot of trouble and money when it comes to choosing what to wear.

Step Two: Choose comfort over design. Of course I am not telling you that it is okay to go out in your pajamas or go out dressed like you’re at home. What I’m saying is that it is better to wear something that you will feel comfortable in even if you have to wear it the whole day than if you wear something that looks very nice but it irritates you in the long run because it makes you feel too hot or too cold.

I bet everybody would agree that corporate or business outfits are not that comfortable as your casual attire, but you do not have any option as that is the dress code ordered by your company. However, there are a lot of comfy shoes and suits available, even corporate dresses for women.

Again, always match your clothes with the event you are going to. Remember Bridget Jones going to a socialite party with her playboy costume? ( I know, I know, this movie is an old one but eh who doesn’t like this flick?) You wouldn’t like to be the laughing-stock of everybody, would you?

Step Three: Learn how to mix and match. The clothes you already have will definitely look good when you pair it with some other item in your wardrobe. You don’t need to buy a new shirt that goes with a new pair of pants every time, that will be very costly and it will take up a lot of space which is very counterproductive to what you are trying to achieve. You don’t have to own every colors of a single item just to match it with the color of your shoes or accessories.

You have to remember that for the basic clothes, stick with neutral colors like black, white, gray, brown and blue. These colors can be match with anything unlike bright colors such as orange, pink or green.

Step Four: Buy clothes that you can use for different events. There are a lot of clothes that can be used either for casual wear or semi-formal events. Take a collared shirt for example, you can pair those with shorts and you’re good to go or if you’re looking for a more formal look pair them with slacks. Again doing this will save you a lot of money and a lot of space in your closet.

Step Five: Know where to get fashion advice. If you really care about what you look like and what you wear then it is probably a good idea to look for some advice. However not everything is good advice. Some people would advise you to buy certain brands that are considered popular and of high quality but in truth it is just the brand that makes it good. That will do you no good. If you’re looking for advice just look for things like what colors match, what kinds of material are comfortable, where you can get the best deal for clothes, shoes, accessories, etc.

I’m not telling you to be cheap, rather be affordable. In the long run, it only does not save you money but it will help you minimize swiping your card to buy expensive clothes. Dress to impress doesn’t always mean designer clothes, always be wise in spending your hard-earned money. I know, I’m that repetitive. Sorry.

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