He is definitely the type of man every person hopes to be: the chief executive of the business industry, the lead actor of a blockbuster movie, the captain of the ship, the commander of the pack. This person is THE Alpha Male. All men around the globe want to be him while all women in the universe fancy being with him. If you are one of these men who want to be seen as THE Alpha Male, then in this blog you will get to read and understand the simple steps to be that man.
#1. Be confident. Confidence is one of the six key traits an alpha male should have. However, being confident should not be overstated or flashy. It is not wrong to think greatly about yourself; and it is also not wrong to think undeniably in your qualifications and abilities. With such notion, men and even women will absolutely act in response to you. You have to know that there is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. Do not, in any situation, confuse arrogance with confidence or vice versa. Arrogance is merely low self-respect turned outwards. People think of an arrogant man as a depressed, insecure, immature man, which is the extremely exact opposite of the definition of an alpha male. Confidence on the other hand, illustrates calm internal and central strength, security, and dependability.
#2. Set your position in a group, event or any given occasion. In a given situation where you enter a room as the alpha male, you need to set your mind that people in there will listen and react to anything you have and want to say. Reactions vary, some might think you are pointless, your ideas are vague or to the extent that they will doubt everything, you say. Your main goal as an alpha male is that these people need to respect what you have or need to say. That you matter, that there should be an impact on what you are saying. This is not easy especially if you have a phobia of speaking to others but in the succeeding chapters, this will be further elaborated. The important point here is that you must not doubt of what you say because if you do, every single person in that room will definitely doubt you as well.
#3. Make use of wit to your gain. You have to know that using wit and humor does not mean you need to be the clown or laughing-stock of the crowd. This only means that you should be able to deliver punch lines in a timely responsive manner, smile with unadulterated pleasure, and to laugh or chuckle at yourself. Even to the point where you laugh at other’s comments or jokes but without being spiteful, malicious or cynical about it.
#4. Allow your own body to do the talk. The manner you present yourself speaks enough volume to other people around you, even if you are not making any sound. Your movements, you hand gestures, your mannerisms, and your posture – these launch signals to other people around you regarding your status in the society. Your goal is to make those signals confident and strong, not puny and protective. Below are some key pointers you need to understand:
- You need to make certain that you practice what you really desire to be. Find out occasions where people gathered, and just walk right in that room proudly. If in any case you do not feel it, then try to remember a situation where you felt proud of yourself, and carry that same feeling every time you practice.
- Teach yourself the Art of Body Language. There are two particular indications that almost all leaders utilize, and followers react to:
- “Steepling” demonstrates an enough amount of confidence. You can make that steeple through pressing both your hands’ fingertips collectively, with your palms separated. Remember that you need not to go too high. When your fingertips touch the mouth area, you are showing lack of confidence so avoid doing this. For any 2-way conversation, the male with a higher steeple take charge or control of the conversation.
- Both hands behind your back. This posture is a mind-set of exposure. You let somebody see power, courage, and confidence. You show your sincerity to listening when you hold both hands at the rear.
- The eye contact. When you talk, walk around, or any particular movement, make certain to look into other people’s eyes. It signals power, sincerity, and charm. However, this could be extremely difficult if you are afraid in making an eye contact. What you can do is keep your eyes moving. Look them in the eye then move it down at the movement of their mouth when they talk.
#5. Do not be scared to load any place with your mere presence. Always bear in your heart and mind that alpha males stand out in the crowd. You have the stand with a powerful posture. Regardless if you talk, glance or just stand, you need to make use of unrestrained gestures. Lastly, even if you are exploding inside due to nervousness, you still need to look unperturbed and at ease in your environment.
#6. The Secret behind listening. You are considered a true leader when you become an alpha male. A real alpha male does not do the talking that much. In fact, he spends more of his time listening to others than talking. When you listen to what other people say, you need to listen attentively and actively. You have to make sure that when you listen, you listen without any signs of judgment. When people see this in you, more individuals will approach and open up to you. The secret behind listening is getting the trust of other people, which is an important alpha male trait.
#7. Alpha males follow other alpha males. One of the easiest and essential approaches to learn how to become an alpha male is by following or copying other alpha males. Observe their gestures, movements, and postures. Observe how they dress because all alpha males have a keen interest in fashion.
#8. Hit the gym and get physically fit. Having abs, toned biceps, and muscular chest is the least important trait of an alpha male because being a real alpha male comes from within. On the other hand, hitting the gym will maintain your body healthy, which signals that you have the ability to take care of others.
#9. Always make sure that you are honest. There are fake alpha males and other people easily distinguish them. Fake alpha males lie and usually cheat just to get what they want. However, a true alpha male is honest to himself and to the other people. He does not pretend just to be accepted by people.
#10. The proper dress code of a true alpha male. With the endless evolution of today’s fashion, even men try to look better. Alpha males do not wear what is trendy this year or the next one. He wears clothes to stand out from the rest of the males in the group. Avoid from wearing clothes that promote or market a brand, your favorite band or whatnot. You need to keep in mind that you should advertise yourself. Another case in point is that dressing well does not necessarily mean dressing up. Try to learn by heart the three important things:
- Your wardrobe should always fit you well.
- Your wardrobe should always be comfortable to wear.
- Your attire should always be suitable and fitting to a particular event or occasion.
#11. Flirting is not always bad so you must learn it. Having the knowledge on how to build a romantic or intimate connection is vital to all alpha males. Being talented, well established, confident, and attractive does not essentially mean that you got what it truly takes to intermingle with your probable mate. On the other hand, it will give you an advantage. Learn the techniques of getting away from being friend zoned and different approaches on how to flirt properly. You do not want to send a wrong message to your potential mate and be slapped at the end, do you?
#12. Develop or learn new skills. Being true alpha ale is not just about confidence, fashion, hairstyle or being physically attractive. Developing new skills or abilities is also considered. This shows that you continuously learn and not afraid of change. You become dependable and well-rounded individual who people will search for when they have questions.
#13. Be a leader, not a mere follower. You do not have to be a manager or a department head to become a leader. And you have to know the difference between a boss and a leader because a leader does not only take control but also does it well. Offer help, take accountable of your mistakes, and share credit to colleagues are some of the things that identify a true leader.
You may find it interesting what kind of woman in the world giving tips about being a desirable Alpha Male. Well, having a male-dominated family tree and working with guys (for years) did the trick. What about you? Any tips you’d like to share? Drop a comment and let us share our ideas. Thanks for sharing Pinay Time with me, Lovelies. 🙂 ❤