One thing that is permanent in this world is change; that is inevitable. However, sometimes you will catch yourself doing it again. That process of searching the negative or bad side of any given situation. You will sense fear, stress and worry – a depressing mind buffet. How long will you permit yourself to think this way?
It is not being in this state of mind but existing in its daily is. It is natural for individuals to think negatively as we need to be prepared that something could go wrong. Even if there are times that we worry for nothing.
However, worrying will not put a stop to bad things to happen; you can only be in charge of your reaction towards them. There is this power to overrule these worries by selecting a different mindset. It’s not easy to change in a snap as it will be an internal battle within you but you have to try.
The power over anxiety is – to change your mind-set.
Relegate THE Obsession
As an adult, we all have or even experience a lot of worries; worries about our peers, our work and our selves. But when anxiety attacks, we get to be obsessed with worries. We have to stop this kind of obsession. However, it is not about your obsession but how you react to it. You over-analyze things. So how do we change this course?
- You have to accept to yourself that you are obsessed.
- Keep reminding yourself that it is alright to have this obsession.
- Always tell yourself that the content of the obsession is NOT important. Do not get caught up in scrutinizing.
- Employ yourself in an activity which will help you alter your sentiment or emotion towards this particular obsession. Remember that our goal here is not to free you from worries (everyone worries, it’s just that, yours is too much). Our main and important goal here is change your reaction towards obsession.
If you are successful in following the steps mentioned above, the important part is the last bulleted point – employ yourself in an activity to change your emotion. This is the trickiest part but don’t start over-thinking here, my friend. Clear your mind for a while and understand these three ways to help you change your course.
Gather and Write
The initial step is to gather your worries; worries that really bother you which anxiety attacks. Get a pen and a paper, and then start taking notes. One piece of advice, always make it to a point to carry a pen and a notebook specifically for this event. Make sure to bring it with your all throughout the day. If it comes to a time of a day that you start obsessing, jot down you precise ideas or thoughts or maybe few sentences or phrases that define your impulses. If obsessing carries on, you just have to keep on writing and writing.
It’s not a synopsis of what you have in mind but a verbatim or word-for-word record of accurately what you are thinking. It’s like impersonating a stenographer inside a courtroom or a transcriber. Please be reminded that you need to jot down everything, as in everything you have in mind.
Once you finish, if you think it AGAIN, write it down. Even if it’s just a repetition of what you’ve just wrote. Again, it is not the outline of the subject matter that you need to write but every SINGLE word that you think must be written.
You may be asking what’s going to be the benefit of these things. Here it goes: When a person is obsessed with something, that person is inclined to repeat the similar substance or content in a repetitive way. Same goes with writing, you identify how cyclical and pointless they are.
With this kind of perception, it deteriorates your obsessions. After some time, you will most likely familiarize this task as a simple chore. In this way, it develops into added work to obsess than to let it go. You see, it is harder or more difficult to write it down over and over again, instead of thinking it several times, as it loses its own power. It commences to create the obsession as a grueling job.
Because of this, when you start obsessing again, you will ask yourself if either you’ll write or just let it slide.
Sing Your Heart Out
There is another option to revolutionize you emotional reaction to your own obsession. It is in the form of singing. Indeed, you read it right. You will SING your worries or obsessions. For an instance, you say, “I might get really sick if I will be infected by drinking from this cup and spread the disease to my loved ones. They might die because of me.” Sing what you are exactly thinking of.
Sounds stupid? Silly? Or obnoxious? Of course, that is the point of why you need to sing your thoughts.
Here’s how to do it:
- Choose a short group of words which recapitulates your obsession. Do not pay attention to the meaning.
- Keep on repeating the words by using a plain melody. You can choose any melody you are comfortable with. Continue doing this for a few minutes.
It is not guaranteed you will be happy right away when doing this activity. As a matter of fact, you might not feel anything except anxiety when you begin singing. However, just attach with it. While doing it, work until you become isolated or separated from the content. Each time you sense less psychologically or emotionally occupied with these thoughts, set free of the tune and the words, then put your mind somewhere else.
Modify THE Image
The first two activities can be applied if your worries or obsessions are in the form of words. What if your worries or obsessions are in the form of images? What will you do? Simply replace the image with another one. For example, you see yourself shouting at your daughter or son; imagine yourself singing a happy song to your daughter or son. You need to replace your worries with a happy image.
Pick images which will make you comfortable, happy, or relaxed. Also, if there are scary images, turn them into caricatures or cartoon-like characters.
These activities might take long before giving you the benefits, however, continue practicing and have faith in yourself.
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