Self-worth is as important as self-esteem as both are connected on how you value yourself and how well you act in response to other people; it very much influences your life. As an individual, you could never get away from all negativities that life may bring to your plate. It is just the matter on how you take things and deal with what you have.
I always believe that no matter how much you have, it will never satisfy yourself, primarily because of the never-ending changes our time gives us. Take your mobile phone as an example, you’ll save a couple of hundreds from your salary just to get the newest phone available in the market but once you purchased it, another one is introduced again with a larger variety of features and applications which could stir your tech cravings once again.
Same goes with your takings in life. Even if you have too much achievement under your belt, you seek more. Contentment is by far the most difficult to attain in any person’s life but you see, you have to be grateful and happy with what you have because others have lesser than you.
Being contented with yourself is the first part that you need to do. You have to assess yourself and list down all the qualities, talents and skills you think you have. Rate those qualities and traits from 1 to 5; you may also ask your friends what they know about you as a person. But do not rely mostly on what other people say because in order for you to be happy you need to value and love yourself first. You need to build your self-confidence.
No matter how good and skilled you are, if you do not know how to carry yourself in public, you’ll have the tendency to draw back and be shy. You are always positioned at the side; could never withstand a certain crowd. Confidence can also affect your decisions and choices; it also develops your convictions in several circumstances.
In this article, I will provide you with 8 simple ways on how to value yourself. Here are the following:
- Stop comparing yourself with other people. It is a given fact that all individuals are different from one another; you are unique (deal with it). Even if you have siblings or friends and you have common interests and personalities, you are still different in many ways as you have different approaches for your personal and social growth and development. Of course, as a human being, you have the propensity not to compare oneself to people with things (material or not) that you want but you do not have; it is practically normal. Did it make you happy? Did you gain something if you were to compare yourself with other individuals? No. So stop doing it.
- Stop worrying about social acceptance. It is true that no man is an island, you are not a hermit. You need people in your life; people you meet every chapter of your life makes what and who you are today, regardless if they will cause you pain or happiness. You will still learn from them. But I must say that social acceptance is a very difficult one to deal with. In order for you to survive this game, you need to please some people and do things way over your boundaries or limitations, but if this is already habitual and it is already causing you too much burden, then stop. You have to know that even if you are too good to be true, there are still certain individuals who will not like you. And that is not your problem any longer. Just be yourself; if people set expectations or standards from you; it is not wrong to do them as no one will put expectations if they are not confident with your abilities. But do not make them as your focal point. You must be happy and passionate in anything you do. If people express their wants and needs from you, then you also have the right to do the same. Be honest with yourself and express what you think.
- Your intrinsic value is more important than your extrinsic one. Sure, having a pleasing outer beauty can be of advantage in different situations (such as job application, academic aspects, etc.) but you have to remember that it is not the only factor that needs to be considered for people to judge and accept you. Most people would choose to build relationships with people who possess acceptable values and attitude rather than people who are pleasing outside but have a rotten attitude. This specific pointer I have to discuss with more details later on.
- Give your best shot. Even if you have shortcomings or flaws, these do not make you a bad person. It makes you unique and different from other people and there is no one who does not have one. So in anything you do, you have to give your best. No one can draw your future but yourself; you have to bear in mind that the greatest battles are not those you have won but those battles you have fought hard. Also, do not rush; you have to have patience and be resourceful in order to go to the place you wanted to be. Despite of failure, if you exerted your best, you will not feel helpless.
- Practice the value of giving and helping. Have you ever experience a situation where you helped a person in need and when that person appreciated your thoughtfulness, you felt happy? That is the purpose of practicing the act of giving and helping. The genuine act of giving or helping is not the reward you will get in return, but the appreciation and warmth you get from the people involved. Like in one of my experiences, even if my parents do not notice my good deeds nor compliment me, I still manage to help them in times of troubles (Got to blog about this later on as well).
- Do not rush; instead live your life one step at a time. Did you watch Adam Sandler’s movie, Click? If you have, Michael Newman, Sandler’s character missed so many events in his life as he kept on fast forwarding episodes. In reality, of course, you cannot find a powerful remote control like in the movie but there are times that you wish a specific moment to be fast forwarded and just end it. Well, you have to do the exact opposite of it; you should not rush any moment you are in right now. You have to enjoy where you at because even a small detail can teach you in life.
- Attain what you want to attain. Dreams are said to be just dreams (not goals) if you will not take actions to achieve it and those dreams are your purpose, which is why you are alive. Your purpose in life is what keeps you going. It acts as fuel which burns the fire within you and maintain your enthusiasm and hope.
- Being unique is neither weird nor strange. You are gifted with a unique set of skills, talents and physical attributes. It may not look good for you but might be pleasing to others, vice versa. And there are also times where you tend to overlook what you have, simply because you are too busy comparing yourself with others. All you need to do is love what you have and share it to others (And yes, I’ll blog on this, so stay tune!).
If you beyond doubt value yourself, you will refrain yourself from doing things which can damage or harm your opportunities in having a balanced, joyous and healthy life. You have to start gaining your confidence, self-contentment and self-worth, and make them your precedence as you toil your way to be the best individual you can be.
What are your thoughts? Are these pointers helpful or did I miss something else? Drop a comment and lets share our ideas. Thanks for dropping by, Lovelies 🙂 ❤