“Prevention is better than cure.”
This saying is always on top of everyone’s head whenever the topic of discussion is about wellness. However, you have to admit it that at some cases, you tend to neglect it, particularly when it comes to the psychological aspect of your health. Few tantrums, a change in eating habits or hot flashes are just normal and would not cause your mental health at risk. On the other hand, such episodes can pile up and can form into a mental disorder, which then affect not only one’s life but also the life of everybody. This does not only apply to adults, it actually starts in our early years.
As parents, you only want the best for your children; providing them the best schools, best foods – best things that life can actually offer. However, you should acknowledge that every day is not always a happy day. There are occasions where you lash out your own frustrations and stresses to your children that can be a reason of confusion, fear or anxiety to them. There are also other factors cause anxiety to a child and here are some:
Peer Pressure. Your responsibility as parents is to provide for your children and in return, you expect them to do well at school or in any activity, they participate. It brings joy and honor to your name what recognition your children get. However, when a child starts to falter or is not doing well in his or her endeavors, you have the propensity to show your disappointment, even without taking consideration as to why your child is not performing well. There have to be reasons but instead of asking why, you sometimes force or order your child to exert more effort. Some cases, you pass your failed dreams over to them without taking into account if they want it as well or not.
Lack of Communication. Due to your hectic schedule between your job and personal errands, you are too tired to communicate with your children. Instead of allotting time to ask how their day was, you will skip dinner and just sleep. Not taking time to sit and talk with your child creates distance between the both of you. Always remember that the first learning environment of any child is at home, what a child learns at home is what a child brings out at school or any other place.
Social Acceptance. Parents also have limitations when it comes in honing a child’s strength and endurance especially when a child starts to go to school. Children meet several individuals with different personalities; some are accommodating, some are reserved and others might be not-so friendly. With such diversity, children create different factions; there is the popular group, the math wizards, athletic group and so on (So Hogwartsy? Or mentioning factions made you think of Divergent? Sorry, I had to write it). Going back, if a child wants to fit in a specific group but the group leader is not that accepting, a child will do whatever it takes to be on that group and can stress him or her out. The sole reason why a child wants to be accepted is to get away from embarrassment or humiliation. Primarily because, having a group or being socially accepted is the best way to boost a child’s confidence and protect one’s social status and importance.
Humiliation/Embarrassment and Social Judgment. Being humiliated or embarrassed in front of other people stresses anyone out, even as you age; you find it unacceptable and unfair. A child’s goal is not to be the laughing-stock of a community because it is extremely traumatizing for them. Humiliation or embarrassment makes a child lose his or her confidence and may create social phobia, instead of developing a child’s full potential. Social judgment is another cause of child’s anxiety. Judging a child based from physical appearance, hearsays or personality greatly affects a child’s self-esteem and self-worth, which are fundamental in personal and social developments.
Hereditary. This last key point is also factual as anxiety disorders can be rooted from genes. Bear in mind that anxiety disorders are classified under mental health problems and it is also proven by some experts in the psychological field. I’ll post another blog for treatment on such cases, so stay tune or follow me (nice segue to promote my site isn’t it? :D) .
These are the top five causes of anxiety in children and are regularly happening every day but some of us choose not to focus on. It is never too late to correct our mistakes in neglecting these things. Share your thoughts, I’d love to hear em, Lovelies. Thanks for catching up with our Pinay Time together! 🙂 ❤