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The Power of Words: Bullying, Insults and Bad-mouthing

Bullying or any form of bad-mouthing has a greater effect to one’s self-esteem. It deteriorates a person’s confidence and interaction with other individuals. Words coming out from your mouth are powerful and destructive, if you used it in a wrong or incorrect way. It is true that words are sharper than swords.

Sometimes people thought that when they drop a joke, regarding the physical appearance of a person, is humorous. The audience and the doer could actually perceive it as a normal or regular joke, but have you ever thought of the subject’s feelings? The victim of the given joke might be smiling or laughing outside, however he or she might be offended inside. Most victims have the tendency to hide their true feelings when people treat them as the laughing stock of the bunch, primarily because of they don’t want to be tagged as party poopers or joy killers. They want people to say that they can be as cool as others too.

People who are victims of bullying or bad mouthing does not only lower their morale and self-esteem but sometimes, they tend to practice what they have experience to other people as well. It is like a revenge of the “punk’ds.” They want other people feel like when you are the topic of a comical get together. Instead of just saying out loud that you were offended, you want others to encounter it. You want them to be the victim and see how humiliated they can be.

Bullying, insults and bad mouthing are all the same; they are verbally given to mock, intimidate or dominate other people. These can be described in different contexts such as:

  • Cyber bullying. This type of bullying is by far the most common nowadays as it is done over the use of the World Wide Web. Due to limited parental control, cyber bullying is often undetected as many internet users uses pseudonyms or face accounts to mock or insult certain individuals. Netizens or online bashers post hateful messages or comments to humiliate other people.
  • Handicapped bullying. Even if different countries have set some laws to protect the rights of disabled or handicapped individuals, some people still perform such mockery. Some establishments or companies also practice handicapped bullying. For example, restaurants those prohibit mentally disabilities from dining in or companies that do not let these disabled citizens to apply for a job vacancy.
  • Third Sex bullying. Though most people are open-minded due to modernization and diversity in culture, they still stick with their tradition. Most of them do not mind having gays, lesbians or bisexuals walking in the same park but they do not want LGBT communities have the same equal rights they have.
  • Parental bullying. Some parents have the tendency to humiliate or throw hateful words to their children as a result of their anger or disappointment. But you have to remember that you do not own your children; they are also humans and have their own preferences in life. You, as a parent, can only guide and teach them but do not have the right to dominate their lives.
  • Academe bullying. Due to different clicks and segregation of the cool groups from the nerdy groups, bullying can also start from school. Normally, this takes place during extracurricular activities or breaks. There are also cases where teachers bully their students in front of the class.
  • Work setting bullying. This takes place in a working environment between a supervisor and a subordinate or from both subordinates.

There is a huge list of different types of bullying, but we have just named a few. The bottom line is, regardless of whom, where and when you drop a bomb; as long as you insulted or humiliated a person and you do this habitually it is already considered bullying.

The Upshot of Bullying

We all of heard of a common bullying experience, from the entire situation where one was bullied, it affected one’s life as he or she grows older; there are pent up emotions and hatred formation. If bullying happened once, it is already considered abusive, but if it is done on several occasions it may result in a very serious problem.

If you happened to be in a comedy bar once, you know that most stand-up comedians use mockery or insult as part of their jokes. You, as an audience, might laughed about it especially if these jokes are well delivered. In addition to this, most jokes are half meant; it is an alternative way to deliver one’s thought instead of using a formal, serious approach.

But because of these things, there are several short and long term effects of bullying. Here are some:

Short term Upshots of Bullying

  • Annoyance or rage
  • Melancholy or misery
  • Health related problems such us vomiting and nausea
  • Low performance in work or school
  • Suicidal notion

Long term Upshots of Bullying

  • Limited opportunities in life
  • A deeper yearning for revenge
  • Trust issues
  • Several fear formation, fear of rejection included
  • Propensity to become an anti-social or loner
  • Hypersensitive
  • Severe health related problems such as panic disorder or bipolar personality

How to fight bullying?

In any path you take, you will never get away with bullying. You can be a victim in one or two occasions and be the doer at some cases as well. But all these boil down to one common denominator – You. Yes, you read it right. It will start and end within yourself. It does not matter if you have experienced it from the past; the important thing you need to bear in mind is today matters. You have to get rid of the word revenge. You have to learn that you do not have the control to other people’s action but you could always influence them to do well.

This is an excerpt from an electronic book that I have written years ago. Yes, beautiful people I was once a ghost writer. I hope I opened your thinking caps that bullying or any form of bad mouthing is a serious issue we are facing nowadays. Do you have a story of your own about bullying? Were you the victim or the doer? What did you do at the end? Comment and share you personal experience. Thanks for reading! ❤

 

 

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Homemade Sugar Scrubs for Different Type of Skins

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There is a wide array of skin problems that most people have experienced over the years.  Some of the most typical skin issues are dry skin, oiliness, and lesions. Treating these skin problems with commercialized products out in the market is a stereotypical practice for most of us. That is given because we have the propensity to be lured by the way companies advertise their products. Even if in most cases these products do not really work. Imagine the money we are spending and getting nothing from it.

As a result, people are now searching for an alternative approach in skin treatment. A method in which the end product is less chemically made, more suited with our skin types and more affordable than those products available in all local stores. This new approach focuses in using raw products that are normally found in the comforts of our home. With that being said, a specific raw product is already making its name out in the open and that is – sugar.

Who said that sugar is only good in making different concoctions? Indeed, sugar adds sweetness in our coffee and pastries but little did we know that sugar could also be used in creating our own recipes for treating the never-ending problems with our skin.

Did you know that?

Sugar is an all-natural humectant that keeps our skin hydrated and moisturized. It is also an excellent source of an Alpha Hydroxy Acid called Glycolic Acid. This type of AHA acid treats aging skin and skin that is damage by direct sunlight. Lastly, due to its small granules, sugar is a great choice for exfoliation, removing the dead skin cells from our skin and revealing the natural glow.

In order to take advantage of the several benefits of using sugar, here are some recipes you could try making at home:

Homemade Scrubs for Dry and Oily Skin

Ingredients:

  • 4 tablespoons of Olive Oil (make use of the Extra Virgin one)
  • 3 tablespoons of regular or organic honey (any of the two will do)
  • 1 cup of regular or organic sugar (any of the two will do)

Procedure:

  1. Get a container with lid. If you are about to use a recycled container for this recipe, you have to make sure to wash it thoroughly. Clean all remaining residue inside the container and use a towel to dry.
  2. Pour the 4 tablespoons of your oil in the container.
  3. After the oil, pour the 3 tablespoons of honey in the container as well.
  4. Finally, add the main ingredient (sugar) into the mixture and mix it well by using a stirring rod or a chopstick.

You do not have to follow the amounts of the ingredients because you can always adjust the ratio to your liking. Store the end product in a room temperature, not in the fridge because you do not want your mixture to harden.

How to Apply:

  1. You need to rinse your face and body.
  2. Scoop some from the mixture and apply it over the face and body.
  3. Make sure to scrub it in a circular motion.
  4. Leave it for a minute before rinsing.

This recipe is advisable to individuals with dry skin, oily skin or both. For those who have a sensitive type of skin, you may use it once in a week but for the rest, you may use it twice in a week.

Homemade Scrubs for Aging Skin

Ingredients:

  • 2 cups of white, cane or brown sugar (any of the three will do)
  • 10 tablespoons of any coffee that is readily available at home
  • ½ cup of almond oil (you may also use olive oil)
  • 2 teaspoon of each extracts (Peppermint and Vanilla)

Procedure:

  1. Get a container with lid. If you are about to use a recycled container for this recipe, you have to make sure to wash it thoroughly. Clean all remaining residue inside the container and use a towel to dry.
  2. Add the sugar and mix it with the preferred coffee.
  3. Add the remaining ingredients, almond oil and the extracts.
  4. Mix all the ingredients by using a spoon or a stirring rod.

If at the end, your mixture is a bit watery, add more sugar and coffee. Use the mixture same as your regular mud scrub. For those who have a sensitive type of skin, use brown sugar and do not add coffee in the recipe.

Homemade Scrubs for Sensitive but Dry Skin

Ingredients:

  • 3 cups of brown or white sugar
  • 3 tablespoon of Ginger Extract
  • 2 tablespoon of Sunflower Oil
  • 2 tablespoon of Almond Oil

Procedure:

  1. Get a container with lid. If you are about to use a recycled container for this recipe, you have to make sure to wash it thoroughly. Clean all remaining residue inside the container and use a towel to dry.
  2. Put the brown or white sugar in the container.
  3. Add the rest of the ingredients and mix them well.

Use the mixture same as your regular scrub. You may use the mixture once or twice a week.

Homemade Scrubs for Normal Skin

Ingredients:

  • 2 cups of Cane Sugar
  • ¼ cup of Sea Salt (it would be better if you will use Celtic sea salt for this)
  • ¾ cup of Coconut Oil
  • 4 tablespoonfuls of Almond Oil
  • Vitamin E extract
  • Few Drops of an Essential Oil (this is optional and pick your own scent)

Procedure:

  1. Get a container with lid. If you are about to use a recycled container for this recipe, you have to make sure to wash it thoroughly. Clean all remaining residue inside the container and use a towel to dry.
  2. Add the cane sugar and sea salt in the container.
  3. Add the oils as well.
  4. With the Vitamin E extract, you can put 1 teaspoon into the mixture.
  5. Add the essential oil of your choice. Then mix it well.

In using an essential oil, make sure you check the label for the concentration value because excessive use of this type of oil might have an adverse effect on your skin.

Making the most out of the raw ingredients accessible in any household has many benefits. It does not only save money but it also gives you a healthier option. It may take a while before noticing changes as your body is accustomed with chemically made products. Just wait and enjoy.

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The Day When You Stopped Giving 2 Flying F’s to People

If you are keeping up with my posts, the latest article I’ve posted (hopefully) gave you an idea that I have lost a very dear childhood friend. He was there when I needed someone to lean on; he was my partner in crime. I could still remember the long late night drives, stealing candy bars at my mom’s, phone call pranks…and that warm hug when I’m sad. It shattered me to pieces and to top it off, I have been dealing few issues. It’s true what they usually say, “When it rains, it pours.” Yes, problems have been pouring left and right.

With all the advises and how to’s I’m sharing, I honestly can say, I’m lost; I don’t know where or how to start picking up the pieces. I guess, this is one of those days where you are on the verge of giving up. Then, few people you care, instead of understanding you, they add up to what you’re going through. Like, dude, could you please be considerate? I mean, stop the BS for once. BUT NOOOO… they will keep on pushing and pushing it till you reach the point that you don’t give a flying f*** and an apple pie. Yes, I’m on that phase and I do hope, I’ll get through it. I know I’m strong, but how? when? where? and why? The endless questions you ask yourself…

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The reason why I haven’t blogged in a while…

Losing someone close to your heart is unexplainable; how would you feel once you hear the news that someone passed away. You may feel anger, sadness or even depression but these words cannot explain what you truly feel; it is definitely beyond that. Getting over such grief is not easy; it is a process of denial, acceptance and moving on with your life and everybody knows that all these cannot be done in a day or a week. Sometimes it may take almost a year before you could totally say that you are in a stable state.

There are relapses through the process; there are times you might feel better and there are also times where you find yourself crying. There are no shortcuts; you have to go through the process, however there are certain ways which can help ease the pain. It may not totally remove you from sadness or misery but it will surely help you cope up with the loss.

The focal point of this post is to convince you that grieving alone is not going to help; do not isolate yourself because having someone to grieve with you is far better than self-seclusion.

Grieve With Your Family

Regardless of the relationship you have with the deceased, you have to grieve with your family. Family is the foundation of any individual and keeping yourself close to them especially in times like this will help you get by. Your family members are the individuals who know you better than anyone else in your network. There are some instances that even when you don’t talk they already know you are going through pain.

Grieving with your family will let you be yourself; no pretensions, no cover ups, just you. Tell them how you feel and you need them to help you pass this phase. You don’t have to tell all the members of the family as you have the option to choose few members whom you think will lend their ears when you talk.

Grieve With Friends

Not everybody is close to their families and we are not going to tackle that area because each individual has different reasons as to why. If you are in the same situation where you feel more comfortable with your friends rather than with your family, that is absolutely fine. You could talk to your best friend or 2-3 of them and seek for guidance.

You could ask them to come with you to a place where you can relieve your mind for a while. Your friends are people next to your family and sometimes you consider them your family; and with this, you’ll feel more secure.

Grieve With a Community Group

They say that to cope of with this kind of situation, it is better to talk with people who have the same experience like you. You feel more emotionally attached with this group as you know have a common ground; you comfort each other and help each other. Hearing their stories will help you in an inspiring and a positive way, thus it prevents you from entering the world of depression.

There are no rules as to whom you should share your grievances but keep in mind that pent-up anger and sadness will only make the situation worse so you have to find an outlet to release those emotions.

Rest in peace, Ricky Icky. You will always be missed.

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Meet and Greet: 4/1/17

Come and join the Party! Share you blog and meet new people. 🙂

Dream Big, Dream Often

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It’s the Meet and Greet weekend everyone!!  Strap on your party shoes and join the fun!  

Ok so here are the rules:

  1. Leave a link to your page or post in the comments of this post.
  2. Reblog this post.  It helps you, it helps me, it helps everyone!
  3. Edit your reblog post and add tags.
  4. Feel free to leave your link multiple times!  It is okay to update your link for more exposure every day if you want.  It is up to you!

  5. Share this post on social media.  Many of my non-blogger friends love that I put the Meet n Greet on Facebook and Twitter because they find new blogs to follow.

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Are You Ready To Commit?

byob.pngEvery individual’s lifelong dream is to be their own boss; and when the opportunity comes, our initial reaction is to grab it even without thinking of the consequences later on. There are some who experience being in a company for more than a decade and would like to quit their job and start a business with the hard-earned money they have saved up for. While others are living in a paycheck to paycheck basis but are willing to apply for a bank loan to change their route towards the entrepreneurship community. We can come up with several reasons why we would like to start a business of our own but the main question here is if we are ready to commit to a very much dynamic world than we are used to. We have this common notion that as long as we put our 100% effort, everything will work out fine. In some ways it is correct, but snap back to reality and think it over for a couple of times. Joining the business venture is not a no-brainer. It does not only involve your effort but it also involves several factors that will exhaust your intellectual, emotional and social abilities.

It is not just an ordinary decision that we make every day because if the time will come your business is not working; you can’t just give up and go back to your past endeavors. This decision, my friend will reflect on how you take things seriously as it will affect your entirety.

Being committed into something you would love to do is a satisfying feeling, but that does not mean you are not scared of what will happen in the near future; you have concerns and a certain fear of uncertainty. But who doesn’t? To help you have a clearer and bigger picture of what you are trying to put yourself into, here are two important points you need to ponder:

No more pointing fingers this time

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I’m assuming that most of us have work experiences and one common scenario is when a given task was not approved, we didn’t take the blame; we pointed it out to other people. Oh for goodness gracious, do not reason out that you haven’t done it. Everybody has a fair share of trying to get away from a mistake; it may not be at your work place but it did happen.

This time eradicate that attitude because in venturing into business or being self-employed, no one is to blame but you. You made the decision, deal with it. Having a good sense of accountability will take you to success. It will definitely deliver constructive results and will be of help in forming positive habits.

Think Out of the Box

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Earlier I did mention the fear of uncertainty and this is one of the major factors why most businesses fail in their first two years and there are some which already failed before starting it. Why? Because it is in our nature to be afraid to go out our comfort zone. We fear things we do not know, things which shut off our creativity and block what we are truly capable of. Do not restrict your mind in experimenting on things; that is what business all about. Look at how Steve Jobs expanded his company. Who could have thought of putting the functions of an mp3 player, a laptop and a phone in one?

I know you still have doubts and you’re a bit dazed, but this is just the beginning. In the next blogs (soon), you’ll be given that “needed push” to come up with a stronger and bolder decision later on. So, click on that Follow button to receive notifications from me. Thanks! 🙂 ❤

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Simple yet Innovative Ways to De-clutter Your Abode

Minimal home decors and neutral colors are more appealing to the eyes rather than those homes with a lot of shelves, chairs or home accessories as it eat up a lot of space and it becomes suffocating. When you check out magazines about home styling, you’ll realize that simple styles and designs are timeless and applying this to your own home will help you out in de-cluttering your life.

People think that owning too many stuff is beneficial but the sad true is – it is NOT. There are more benefits of owning less stuff such as: fewer things to clean, you can find or search for your stuff easily and you can save a lot of money. To a few number of individuals, de-cluttering your own personal space is easier, however, when you are a self-confessed “hoarder,” this is going to be a tough time for you.

Hoarder is a person who loves to amass different things, regardless if it has a sentimental value or not, and has a difficult time in throwing them away. I will have to agree with you that this section will be a tough one for you. But no need to worry as the steps mentioned here will be in general. You do not have to decide abruptly, just take your time to read and understand the reasons behind you need to throw away other things and why you need to keep some.

You may ask yourself why? The answer is just simple. In de-cluttering your life as a whole, you should start with yourself and with your own personal space – that is, your home. Your home is a reflection of yourself; it justifies your personality and how you deal with things. So below are the 10 steps you need to consider:

Step One: The five rock-hard-minute rule. You need to take 5 minutes of your time in picturing the space you want to de-clutter first. This will lend a hand in judging what needs to be thrown away and what needs to stay. It also organizes your thoughts and coming up with a plan in a breeze.

Step Two: 365-Day Item Giving. This step is actually very insightful for hoarders. You have to remember that you do not have to be in a rush towards the way you value things; take one step at a time and do this challenge. In one year, each day you have to pick an item you need to give away; it could be as huge as an extra chair you do not use or small as a candle piece. It may seem a long process for non-hoarders but if you’ll look into a bigger perspective it has a massive transformation in return.

Step Three: One black trash bag could make a difference. Just get a trash bag and fill it with things or stuff you most likely do not need. If some of the things you put inside the trash bag can be of use, then donate it to charitable institutions. You do not only clear your own abode but you could help others at the same time.

Step Four: The ever famous Closet Hanger Try-Out. This is done by most people who single-handedly took the challenge of de-cluttering their life; but it was Oprah Winfrey who made it famous. To locate your clothing pieces which needs to be cleared out, you must hang each and every clothes you possessed (you need a lot of hangers for this trick).

Make sure you hang them in a reverse way and then after wearing each clothe, you have to return them inside your closet with hanger facing right or correct way. In the course of five to six months, you will have a clearer view of which wardrobe pieces you can thrust aside without any trouble. The closet hanger try-out or experiment could also be useful other cluttered areas around the house such as playroom, tools, linens and so forth.

Step Five: Jot a list. If the five rock-hard-minute challenge will not do the trick, then you can jot down a list of areas inside the house that need to be de-cluttered first. It would be better if you’ll start with the easiest area to de-clutter as those difficult areas will take a lot of time to organize. It may sound dull and boring in just doing a list, so here’s what you need to do next.

After finishing one area, you need to stop for the day. Look at the area you finished and the areas which are not and spot the difference. You’ll feel relax and more comfortable looking at a well-organized and simplified area than a messy one.

Step Six: The 12/12/12 Dare. You have to pick 12 things that you need to throw away, another set of 12 things you are willing to donate and a last set of 12 things you need to return to their right owner or find an owner. Imagine, in doing this challenge, it will fix 36 items in one go.

Step Seven: Put up a garage sale. You see not all items you could find inside your house are trash, sometimes, you just have too many stuff that you tend to forget you have those all along. So when you start all the steps mentioned above and if you are on a tight budget, you could put up a mini garage sale to sell the collected items.

If you do not have an extra time to put up a garage sale, then no need to worry. There are store or depot owners who buy second-hand items for cheaper price. Don’t dare to complain if they buy your items half of the original price, you should be grateful instead.

Step Eight: Play with numbers. Some people suggest practicing the Project333, where you only allowed wearing 33 wardrobe pieces in the span of 3 months. With this project, it helped them choose the clothing items they do not really need. You may also follow the same project but don’t just settle with that. Be creative and invent a project of your own and practice it in your everyday living. The vital point of playing with numbers is to face up with life and live with fewer things; and view your learnings from the challenge.

Step Nine: Be creative and imaginative. Humans are sentimental in nature. We value the things we have especially those items that were given as a gift or reward by the people who are closed to our hearts. Most hoarders feel the same way but in an excessive manner. Therefore, if giving or throwing away any item is a hurdle for you, then be creative and imaginative on how you need to live with less material things in life.

For example, you value all the shoe boxes even if the actual shoes are already worn out, then create them as storage boxes by designing the box. There are a lot of websites which could help you out with DIY (Do it Yourself) stuff. Check out Pinterest or Facebook pages to get some ideas of your own.

Step Ten: Four-box Approach. This is the most common and generic method you could use in your expedition to minimalism. All you need is to get four boxes and label them as: junk, give away, stay and reposition. Put all as in everything in the boxes (where you think it belongs); this may take few hours or even days or weeks, however, it will still help you in de-cluttering your home.

You could use two or three steps at the same time; it is all up to you but remember that de-cluttering your own home is a big step in de-cluttering you whole life. 🙂 ❤

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13 Easy Steps in Becoming a Desirable Alpha Male

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He is definitely the type of man every person hopes to be: the chief executive of the business industry, the lead actor of a blockbuster movie, the captain of the ship, the commander of the pack. This person is THE Alpha Male. All men around the globe want to be him while all women in the universe fancy being with him. If you are one of these men who want to be seen as THE Alpha Male, then in this blog you will get to read and understand the simple steps to be that man.

#1. Be confident. Confidence is one of the six key traits an alpha male should have. However, being confident should not be overstated or flashy. It is not wrong to think greatly about yourself; and it is also not wrong to think undeniably in your qualifications and abilities. With such notion, men and even women will absolutely act in response to you. You have to know that there is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. Do not, in any situation, confuse arrogance with confidence or vice versa. Arrogance is merely low self-respect turned outwards. People think of an arrogant man as a depressed, insecure, immature man, which is the extremely exact opposite of the definition of an alpha male. Confidence on the other hand, illustrates calm internal and central strength, security, and dependability.

#2. Set your position in a group, event or any given occasion. In a given situation where you enter a room as the alpha male, you need to set your mind that people in there will listen and react to anything you have and want to say. Reactions vary, some might think you are pointless, your ideas are vague or to the extent that they will doubt everything, you say. Your main goal as an alpha male is that these people need to respect what you have or need to say. That you matter, that there should be an impact on what you are saying. This is not easy especially if you have a phobia of speaking to others but in the succeeding chapters, this will be further elaborated. The important point here is that you must not doubt of what you say because if you do, every single person in that room will definitely doubt you as well.

#3. Make use of wit to your gain. You have to know that using wit and humor does not mean you need to be the clown or laughing-stock of the crowd. This only means that you should be able to deliver punch lines in a timely responsive manner, smile with unadulterated pleasure, and to laugh or chuckle at yourself. Even to the point where you laugh at other’s comments or jokes but without being spiteful, malicious or cynical about it.

#4. Allow your own body to do the talk. The manner you present yourself speaks enough volume to other people around you, even if you are not making any sound. Your movements, you hand gestures, your mannerisms, and your posture – these launch signals to other people around you regarding your status in the society. Your goal is to make those signals confident and strong, not puny and protective. Below are some key pointers you need to understand:

  • You need to make certain that you practice what you really desire to be. Find out occasions where people gathered, and just walk right in that room proudly. If in any case you do not feel it, then try to remember a situation where you felt proud of yourself, and carry that same feeling every time you practice.
  • Teach yourself the Art of Body Language. There are two particular indications that almost all leaders utilize, and followers react to:
    • “Steepling” demonstrates an enough amount of confidence. You can make that steeple through pressing both your hands’ fingertips collectively, with your palms separated. Remember that you need not to go too high. When your fingertips touch the mouth area, you are showing lack of confidence so avoid doing this. For any 2-way conversation, the male with a higher steeple take charge or control of the conversation.
    • Both hands behind your back. This posture is a mind-set of exposure. You let somebody see power, courage, and confidence. You show your sincerity to listening when you hold both hands at the rear.
  • The eye contact. When you talk, walk around, or any particular movement, make certain to look into other people’s eyes. It signals power, sincerity, and charm. However, this could be extremely difficult if you are afraid in making an eye contact. What you can do is keep your eyes moving. Look them in the eye then move it down at the movement of their mouth when they talk.

#5. Do not be scared to load any place with your mere presence. Always bear in your heart and mind that alpha males stand out in the crowd. You have the stand with a powerful posture. Regardless if you talk, glance or just stand, you need to make use of unrestrained gestures. Lastly, even if you are exploding inside due to nervousness, you still need to look unperturbed and at ease in your environment.

#6. The Secret behind listening. You are considered a true leader when you become an alpha male. A real alpha male does not do the talking that much. In fact, he spends more of his time listening to others than talking. When you listen to what other people say, you need to listen attentively and actively. You have to make sure that when you listen, you listen without any signs of judgment. When people see this in you, more individuals will approach and open up to you. The secret behind listening is getting the trust of other people, which is an important alpha male trait.

#7. Alpha males follow other alpha males. One of the easiest and essential approaches to learn how to become an alpha male is by following or copying other alpha males. Observe their gestures, movements, and postures. Observe how they dress because all alpha males have a keen interest in fashion.

#8. Hit the gym and get physically fit. Having abs, toned biceps, and muscular chest is the least important trait of an alpha male because being a real alpha male comes from within. On the other hand, hitting the gym will maintain your body healthy, which signals that you have the ability to take care of others.

#9. Always make sure that you are honest. There are fake alpha males and other people easily distinguish them. Fake alpha males lie and usually cheat just to get what they want. However, a true alpha male is honest to himself and to the other people. He does not pretend just to be accepted by people.

#10. The proper dress code of a true alpha male. With the endless evolution of today’s fashion, even men try to look better. Alpha males do not wear what is trendy this year or the next one. He wears clothes to stand out from the rest of the males in the group. Avoid from wearing clothes that promote or market a brand, your favorite band or whatnot. You need to keep in mind that you should advertise yourself. Another case in point is that dressing well does not necessarily mean dressing up. Try to learn by heart the three important things:

  • Your wardrobe should always fit you well.
  • Your wardrobe should always be comfortable to wear.
  • Your attire should always be suitable and fitting to a particular event or occasion.

#11. Flirting is not always bad so you must learn it. Having the knowledge on how to build a romantic or intimate connection is vital to all alpha males. Being talented, well established, confident, and attractive does not essentially mean that you got what it truly takes to intermingle with your probable mate. On the other hand, it will give you an advantage. Learn the techniques of getting away from being friend zoned and different approaches on how to flirt properly. You do not want to send a wrong message to your potential mate and be slapped at the end, do you?

#12. Develop or learn new skills. Being true alpha ale is not just about confidence, fashion, hairstyle or being physically attractive. Developing new skills or abilities is also considered. This shows that you continuously learn and not afraid of change. You become dependable and well-rounded individual who people will search for when they have questions.

#13. Be a leader, not a mere follower. You do not have to be a manager or a department head to become a leader. And you have to know the difference between a boss and a leader because a leader does not only take control but also does it well. Offer help, take accountable of your mistakes, and share credit to colleagues are some of the things that identify a true leader.

You may find it interesting what kind of woman in the world giving tips about being a desirable Alpha Male. Well, having a male-dominated family tree and working with guys (for years) did the trick. What about you? Any tips you’d like to share? Drop a comment and let us share our ideas. Thanks for sharing Pinay Time with me, Lovelies. 🙂 ❤